Would you allow?

[Nephythys]

Your 10 year old daughter to wear red lipstick?

[Alex]

When and where?

Playing soccer, probably not. Turning tricks, probably so.

[Nephythys]

LOL-

My daughter is arguing with me about my rule of no red lipstick. I told her that she could wear pinks and pastel lip glosses...but no red. I might let her wear red on a special night out-like to the theatre or something. But not for an everyday thing-

[Chernabog]

I vote yes. But this may be why I own a dog and not kids.

[Ghoulish Delight]

You let your dog wear red lipstick?

[Jazzman]

Is red lipstick bad? Honestly, being a guy, I have no clue. ???

[BarTopDancer]

At 10? I'd probably allow it in dress up play but probably not out and about. How red are we talking about? Hooker red, pinkish red or purple red?

I wasn't allowed to wear anything other than Lip Smackers at 10.

[€uroMeinke]

Is red lipstick bad? Honestly, being a guy, I have no clue. ???

It depends on how you feel about whores

[Jazzman]

It depends on how you feel about whores

Zing! :D



Honestly, I never looked at red lipstick as any more "whorish" than any other color. And I would think that overall make-up application would be more determinate of one's Whore Level than specific color. Is this really a thing that chicks have to deal with?

Me thinks that when we pop out kids, I'm doomed if it's girls...

[Alex]

I think the general thinking is that some colors are (by design or otherwise) more likely to draw attention to the lips than others and that there's really no reason people need their attention drawn to a 10-year-old's lips.

But, except for dressing up, I'd also think there's not really any reason at all for a 10-year-old to be wearing any make-up. I honestly have no idea how I'd go on the issue. I guess I'd start with investigating why she thinks she wants to wear red lipstick (or any other make-up) and "because my friends are" isn't going to be a good reason.

[Strangler Lewis]

What Alex said.

[ToriBear]

I think that wearing red lipstick is fine for dress up, but not for wearing out of the house everyday. I wasn't even allowed to wear it until this year, even then I can't really wear it. ( Not that I really want to, anyway. )

And Jazzman, sadly, that is what we 'chicks' have to deal with.

[Jazzman]

Just checked with Steph and the management directive in our household is going to be "No makeup at all until thirteen. Red lipstick is then okay, but only if it matches tone and shading." So, I guess that means I should have answered "Yes" on the poll.

Thank Zeus I'm a guy. I can't imagine how much more difficult my youth would have been if I'd had to add makeup, hairstyling, and so on to my list of teen worries. Huzzah to all you ladies for managing it all! :D

[Alex]

Another reason to say "no." It is developmentally important for every girl to spend the first couple years of her makeup wearing life doing so behind the backs of her parent.

If she's not lying about that all she'll have left to sneak around on is sex, drugs, and small engine repair.

[ToriBear]

Another reason to say "no." It is developmentally important for every girl to spend the first couple years of her makeup wearing life doing so behind the backs of her parent.

If she's not lying about that all she'll have left to sneak around on is sex, drugs, and small engine repair.

When is she supposed to elope?

[Alex]

What a horribly inappropriate thing to say about a 10-year-old!

I hope you're ashamed of yourself.

[RStar]

Our daughter was not allowed to wear make up (other than playing dress up) until she was 14. Everyone was fine with that (and then the make up was sparingly in good taste). 10 years old is way too young. Lip gloss is ok, but color is too much. She can be well groomed, but not made up at that age. Find little things she can do to feel older (but not look older)as far as grooming. And explain to her that trying to look much older with make up sends the wrong message to older boys. That's my advice.

[Kevy Baby]

Susan and I vote no on the 10-year-old daughter. The jury is still out on the dog wearing lipstick

[Gemini Cricket]

Imho, 10 is a little early for every day make-up. Theatre, Halloween... yeah, it's okay but not for every day...

[Not Afraid]

I don't know. Which color red? I would think a blue-red would look great on Rose but an orange-red would be hideous.

[Nephythys]

The reds she had poached from my make-up looked very nice on her- but she is only 10. So the reds stay with me and she can wear them on special occasions- but for everyday it's gloss, chapstick or pinks.

[Cadaverous Pallor]

This is one of a billion parenting issues where I'd follow my own inner moral compass and really don't care what other people think.

I can't help but wonder if you're going to adhere to the results of this poll...and if Rose knew that "the rules" weren't actually your rules, would she respect them at all?

What I'm trying to say is that I vote for C - do what is right for you.

[Nephythys]

This is one of a billion parenting issues where I'd follow my own inner moral compass and really don't care what other people think.

I can't help but wonder if you're going to adhere to the results of this poll...and if Rose knew that "the rules" weren't actually your rules, would she respect them at all?

What I'm trying to say is that I vote for C - do what is right for you.

The poll is somewhat in jest. In our conversation I told her that I am not the only one who would not let a 10 year old go about in red lipstick-and I would put a poll up to ask:D

In the end-you are right-I am going to do what is right for me. My little girl is growing up fast enough without putting on red lipstick.

I took the reds away for now, and told her we would pick up some lighter colors so she can carry on with her girly fun.

[wolfy999]

Wolfette started wearing lipstick (pinks, pastels etc) when she was 10 or 11, but not to school. I don't remember her ever liking dark colors, she thought they made her look cheap.

Now she likes the natural look at 13, so she only wears chapstick now.

[blueerica]

LOL-

My daughter is arguing with me about my rule of no red lipstick. I told her that she could wear pinks and pastel lip glosses...but no red. I might let her wear red on a special night out-like to the theatre or something. But not for an everyday thing-

I like this option, and what you said later on in the thread. I think out-right banning something just makes it all the more appealing to do. Plus, it adds further stigma to doing something or not doing something.

I voted "Yes" because "No" is much more finite in its meaning to me.