Wedding attire

[Name]

Damn, I just realized I have a wedding to go to tomorrow(today, 15may, its tomorrow for me cause I ain't gone to bed yet :D) and its been so long since I'v been to one of those things that I don't remember what is the proper attire to wear to such a function?

Do I dust off the tux, or just go with the suit. Damn, I don't want to over dress(and look better then the wedding party :evil: ) and I don't want to under dress and be disrespectful. :sigh:

Who knows if I will actually log into the boards between now and the time I actually get ready for this shin dig, but just thought I would ask in case I did stop by.

[Moonliner]

Damn, I just realized I have a wedding to go to tomorrow(today, 15may, its tomorrow for me cause I ain't gone to bed yet :D) and its been so long since I'v been to one of those things that I don't remember what is the proper attire to wear to such a function?

Do I dust off the tux, or just go with the suit. Damn, I don't want to over dress(and look better then the wedding party :evil: ) and I don't want to under dress and be disrespectful. :sigh:

Who knows if I will actually log into the boards between now and the time I actually get ready for this shin dig, but just thought I would ask in case I did stop by.

Well that depends, are you the one gettting married? If so then I would definitly go with the tux. If not then a good spring suit (ie lighter color) would do fine.

[mhrc4]

are you attending, or photographing the wedding?

either way, hook it up with the suit :D

[Name]

I don't do wedding's(photography) :shudder:, but cool, I guess I will hook the suit up.....

[tracilicious]

I'm pretty sure it depends on the time and location of the wedding. Some fancy nighttime weddings require nice dark suits or tuxes, but I think most afternoon normal weddings a normal lighter suit would be fine. If it isn't a nighttime wedding I definitely would not wear a tux. It would be super embarrassing to be the only guest wearing one, but I can guarantee that you won't be the only one in a suit in the afternoon. This message is probably too late, but oh well. I think weddings are so boring. Seen one, seen em all. Just like funerals.

[Name]

its an evening wedding at the martin johnson house at the scripps institute of oceanography. But I think I will still go with the suit(I would look too good in the tux and could possibly look bettet then the wedding party, and that just wouldn't do ;)).

[Cadaverous Pallor]

If you still have the invite - it may say "tux optional" or "required" or whatever. If it doesn't say anything, and it's an afternoon wedding, you can go sans tie if you like, but I'd recommend normal suit. For a nighttime wedding, definitely suit.

[Kevy Baby]

Having been a DJ for 20+ years, performing at several hundred weddings (I knew it was time to retire when I did the Bat-Mitzvah of the daughter of a couple whose wedding I had played many years before). While I have played many lower-key, informal weddng receptions, I have also played at some of the finer establishments in Orange County (Ritz Carlton, Marriott Newport, etc.). I can honestly say that I have never been at a wedding reception where gentlemen, other than parental units or members of the wedding party, have worn tuxedos.

Not to say that it isn't done, but I ain't seen it.

Although I have seen morons show up in flip-flops and untucked Hawaiian shirts to a formal wedding. Rude!

[Ghoulish Delight]

It's called a black-tie wedding. If it didn't say "black-tie" or "black-tie optional" on the invite, then a tux will be out of place. A suit is what you need.

[Name]

Although I have seen morons show up in flip-flops and untucked Hawaiian shirts to a formal wedding. Rude! Damn, and I was just ironing the hawaiian shirt too... ;)

[Kevy Baby]

It's called a black-tie wedding. If it didn't say "black-tie" or "black-tie optional" on the invite, then a tux will be out of place. A suit is what you need.Unless you are in "Society" (which I don't thiink any of us here would qualitfy for :p ) you probably won't see a "Black-Tie" wedding. It just doesn't happen much on here the left coast.

One could presume that the invite wasn't a "Black-Tie" type, otherwise, the OP would have been unneccessary.

[Name]

I'm kinda offended that you don't think that I would have any "society" ties :p But seriously the invite was rather vague, they assumed everyone knew what the martin johnson house was without disclosing any further location information, had to look online for that, and don't remember if any of the attire info was on the RSVP which I returned weeks ago. But I will just go with the suit.

[Ghoulish Delight]

I've been to several black tie weddings, all here on SoCal.

[mhrc4]

ive been to a black tie wedding here in Irvine as well....

[Cadaverous Pallor]

I think a black-tie wedding would have a live band (nothing against DJs, of course) :)

[MickeyD]

I think a black-tie wedding would have a live band (nothing against DJs, of course) :)


That was my thought as well. In my experience (some of my extended family is pretty hoity toity, unfortunately) the more formal the wedding, the less likely they are to have a DJ. Personally, I <3 DJ's.

[Kevy Baby]

Personally, I <3 DJ's.You're less than three DJs?!? :evil:

[tracilicious]

I always think the less than three thing too. I dj'd my own wedding. I simply made a list of songs, downloaded them, arranged them and put them on a cd timed to the reception. The song we danced to was played live on guitar, then the guitarist pressed play on the cd player. Fancy, eh? ;)