I'm gonna spend some time away from this board... [Archive]

madmonkeygirl

01-30-2008, 12:50 PM

I'm posting this as to why i'm not on here or posting. Brad if you need information about April just PM me or let Matt know and we'll figure out about the animals situation.

For reasons i am not gonna get into on here i do not feel welcome anymore. I post responses and yes sometimes events i can not get to or make due to work. I do not have a Mon thru Fri job like everyone almost always has on here... So i work weekends. Other times it does take money and traveling etc. That i just don't have the energy or desire to spend sitting in a car trying to attempt to get down there...

I know i could organize a swanking event myself i just have LIFE to attend to outside of all this. Work and marriage and a household with daily chores and activities and animals to attend to.

I'm sorry if i am posting negative responses alot of times or making it sound old to my replies about certain events...i just thought that i would the day would never come where i was told "my responses are getting old". "that i make the same excuses".

So to those who i offended sorry. I do not want to bother anyone so...i guess some time is needed away from here for obvious reasons.

You can either email me or let Matt know if you need to speak to me....

It was fun while it lasted....another board i do not feel at home at anymore...

Have fun everyone....

cya

Disneyphile

01-30-2008, 01:00 PM

innerSpaceman

01-30-2008, 01:07 PM

Um, sorry you feel this way.

You know, we have lots of members who are out of town, and can't make events for that reason. So just because you work on weekends does not make you some sort of pariah for being unavailable for some or most of the get-togethers that happen.

Ugh, here is it January 30, and we DID NOT have a January swanking.

Bah, the swanking season is only 3 months long, and we've blown January for the first time in LoT history.

But you know what? ... Swankings and events are NOT ALL OF WHAT THE LOT IS ABOUT. It's a tiny part of the swanky message board scene we have cultivated.

I hope you're not feeling unduly left out of events that do or do not end up happening. I'm sure plenty of people who live out of town or out of state also get pangs of 'waaaaa' when they read about fun events planned or done.

Anyways, I hope you will reconsider. We'd miss you!

Take a break, if you must. Come back if you can. :cheers:

Disneyphile

01-30-2008, 01:12 PM

Ugh, here is it January 30, and we DID NOT have a January swanking.I beg to differ. My honey swanked me quite well this month. ;)

I respect your need for a break, MMG. Give lots of love to the critters and spend some time rocking out to Bon Jovi. :)

madmonkeygirl

01-30-2008, 01:14 PM

ISM it's not about being left out of events or not being able to go. It's about me posting that i can't go for obvious reasons. There is a person on this board. (I put on ignore now). That made it obvious to me in a comment and pm's that what i'm posting is "old and that i need to do something about it if i can't go" maybe to start one on my own...but i have no free time at all barely.

I have other obligations and responsibilities. I do not feel left out. I felt loved here on the board until today. When i was personally "attacked" yes i was...Because of this i am really wary now of everyone sorry but until i know that won't happen again...and no i did not get an "sorry" and i'm not expecting one from them either.

I will take a break but i will definitely post on here about Bon Jovi and the concerts definitely :) Cuz who knows what good things are in store in April.

Just brings me down and i've been crying and i do not want to post my whole story about myself on here either. Those of you who know know. Those who don't just give me time.

Those who have responded to this post i thank you from the bottom of my heart.

JWBear

01-30-2008, 01:21 PM

Please don't leave the board because of one person. Whoever they are, they do not speak for the rest of us!

innerSpaceman

01-30-2008, 01:28 PM

Um, yeah, even if their position seems like they might have some Official Voice status ... there's no such fvcking thing!

Anyway, go ... heal ... get better .... i'm sorry you got your feelings hurt. That sux. But you are loved in these here parts, and we hope to see you around here again some day.

blueerica

01-30-2008, 01:28 PM

I really hope you wouldn't leave LoT over a single incident. I'm sorry it's brought you down so much, but I know a lot of us here really do like you. If we, as a whole, gave you any other impression, I'm very sorry for that.

I'm guessing from your first post that the whole thing might be a misunderstanding. Sometimes when you post that you can't go somewhere, like the thing at the Hearthstone, it reads a little like 'you can't waste your time' to come see anyone. I don't think that's what you mean at all, but it could be read that way... maybe someone was trying to send you a signal on it, in a more private way? I know that's how a lot of people use mojo comments, both positive and negative. Sometimes the shock of getting negative feedback can take away from the actual intent, so I'm hoping that's a bit of insight from my own experience.

Anyhow, I like you a lot and I hope that you stay. Maybe just take a breather and do what DP suggests, love up some critters and rock out to some Bon Jovi!

:)

Scrooge McSam

01-30-2008, 01:43 PM

Time

You have it.

But when I come back to Disneyland in about 34 years and don't get to meet you I'm gonna be pissed.

Eliza and NirvanaMan are still on my **** list from last time. And I don't think there's any redemption for Leo.:p

Seriously, I'm sorry things got wonky. I hope it all works out where you can still participate and have a good time. Because even if you can't do all the meetups, the online stuff is still a lot of fun.

BarTopDancer

01-30-2008, 01:44 PM

I'm guessing from your first post that the whole thing might be a misunderstanding. Sometimes when you post that you can't go somewhere, like the thing at the Hearthstone, it reads a little like 'you can't waste your time' to come see anyone. I don't think that's what you mean at all, but it could be read that way... maybe someone was trying to send you a signal on it, in a more private way? I know that's how a lot of people use mojo comments, both positive and negative. Sometimes the shock of getting negative feedback can take away from the actual intent, so I'm hoping that's a bit of insight from my own experience.

I suspect BE is right here. When I read your reply in the Hearthstone thread I was like ok... you have better things to do then spend time with us. Almost insulting to the organizer.

We're all busy and we make things that are important to us a priority. I know I said it before in another thread somewhere - not all of us can make everything. There are so many things on weeknights that those of us in OC can't make because of work and traffic.

SacTown Chronic

01-30-2008, 01:50 PM

But when I come back to Disneyland in about 34 yearsThis will not stand. Try again, Sam.

Scrooge McSam

01-30-2008, 01:56 PM

Yeah, we gotta try bending that curve a bit.

innerSpaceman

01-30-2008, 02:00 PM

Um, remind me not to smoke 4 joints at once if Sam and SacTown ever make it to Disneyland at the same time again.

Ghoulish Delight

01-30-2008, 02:03 PM

Um, remind me not to smoke 4 joints at once if Sam and SacTown ever make it to Disneyland at the same time again.
Aww, but you were so entertaining.

From what little I remember.

Nephythys

01-30-2008, 02:22 PM

*sigh*

Time away sometimes helps- I have taken self-imposed breaks from LoT in the past.

Morrigoon

01-30-2008, 02:32 PM

Jeez, I go to lunch and miss all the hubbub...

MMM: Perhaps you're taking missing meets too personally?

I mean, even if you never make it to any meets (I'm looking at you, Leo!) you're still a part of this community. In fact, you don't even need to apologize for not being able to make them. I think everyone here knows that you live way up in the farthest part of the Valley and have a job that gets in the way (hell, I live in the far south part of OC, so a lot of Hollywood swankings are just plain out for me).

Nobody "expects" you to attend meets, this isn't that kind of a group. I mean, sure we'd love to see you guys at stuff, but everyone has a life, and life doesn't always make it conducive to get to stuff. Maybe just don't worry about it so much?

I don't know what all was in the original PM, but based on what you've posted and what I've read in past threads, maybe what they're getting at is that you sound all hurt because you can't get to meets - but it's just not that big of a deal. You can make an event or you can't. Nobody holds it against you either way. I know I've posted the "Would love to but can't because...." responses in meet threads before myself, but I do it more to express an interest in the subject matter (in hopes of future similar meets I might be able to make) than to complain about the timing.

Ugh, I feel like I'm rambling. I hope something I said in there makes sense. Basically, I wouldn't stress over the not-able-to-get-to-meets thing. I don't think there's anyone on this board who could possibly make it to every single meet. We all have our various scheduling/financial issues that affect us and force us to make choices. You're certainly not alone in that, and nobody holds it against you.

scaeagles

01-30-2008, 02:34 PM

I've been to one meet. I was scared and ran away.

I like it on the board, though.

Morrigoon

01-30-2008, 02:36 PM

I wasn't even there, and you got askeered?

NirvanaMan

01-30-2008, 02:41 PM

Eliza and NirvanaMan are still on my **** list from last time. And I don't think there's any redemption for Leo.:p

I try to get on as many as possible. It was in one of those 1001 things to do before you die book things.

Crap when did I miss you being out here though? I don't remember that.

BarTopDancer

01-30-2008, 03:10 PM

I like it on the board, though.

I hear that's not the only place you like it... :evil:

Strangler Lewis

01-30-2008, 03:32 PM

I think people who don't go to meets are the coolest.

scaeagles

01-30-2008, 04:19 PM

And I don't think there's any redemption for Leo.:p

There are only two things that would redeem me in your eyes - conversion to a liberal or access to my ham. Neither of which will be happening anytime....ever.:p

Gemini Cricket

01-30-2008, 04:33 PM

MMG, if Jon Bon Jovi asked you to stay, would you?

:D

I say take a break if you want.
I'm still on for April. No worries.
:)

Snowflake

01-30-2008, 05:06 PM

:( 'm sad my dear and I hope you will come back, one does not speak for all here, as others have said

RStar

01-30-2008, 05:23 PM

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best.

I know I've gotten so buisy that I can't make the meets much anymore. I'm lucky to run into someone by accident and say hi for two minutes. And I don't spend half the time on the boards any more.

Take care of yourself, and I hope to see you around just the same.

wendybeth

01-30-2008, 05:56 PM

If you feel you need to take a break, or a permanent vacation, that's certainly your prerogative and we'll all respect that. I'm reading in your posts that it's one person who is making you feel uncomfortable about stuff, am I right? Then why throw the baby out with the bathwater, so to speak? Deal with that person via PM, e-mail or talk to one of us mods or admins and see if we can smooth things out, but why the self-imposed exile? Again, that is your decision, but I think you can see by the above posts that you will be missed if you decide to stay away.

CoasterMatt

01-30-2008, 07:39 PM

Is it me? :(

Disneyphile

01-30-2008, 07:40 PM

Is it me? :(Uh-oh. Divorce by message board!

I'll call Dr. Phil to intervene.

And, I'll also call Springer.

;)

CoasterMatt

01-30-2008, 07:41 PM

Send in the clowns, too :)

innerSpaceman

01-30-2008, 07:42 PM

Hahaha,oh, um, not ... but zapppop and i had our nastiest break-up (of the four) on a message board (not this one).

Kevy Baby

01-30-2008, 07:45 PM

Send in the clowns, too :)You and I are already here.

GusGus

01-30-2008, 10:46 PM

madmonkeygirl

01-31-2008, 12:13 AM

It's not cuz i can't make the meets...it's from one person who "attacked me via privately". Sorry but i can't defend myself and fight anymore. I've done that all my life and i'm burned out. I just wanted a place to be safe and loved and to be able to post on here up til today i never thought i would have to defend myself always thought this was a fun place..debate and express opinions...

GC if Jon Bon Jovi asked me to stay i would stay. :)

Cindy you make a good point and it's not cuz of that. Yeah i do feel bad sometimes not being able to make a meet up or swanky but that's life.

I've been told not to post that i can't make this event or that event that it is getting old my excuses so...i won't....

I think i'm getting sick...so i need to go to bed now...achy headache i really hope not i don't want or need to be sick in any way or fashion...

wendybeth

01-31-2008, 01:34 AM

Well, even if I lived in SoCal, I certainly wouldn't be able to (and wouldn't be expected) to make all the meets, trips and whatnot. Everyone on here has 'a life' and the get-togethers are to be fit in when and if it's feasible. I wish I could see all of you more, but I can't due to the distance. You're closer geographically so you might feel the pressure to join up more, but it's not expected and I'm sure no one wants to make you feel like you have to show at each and every event. I dunno- I think the fact that people want to see you is a good thing, but maybe I'm missing out on something here. I hope you can work this out and stay with us, but in the end it's all up to you. I also hope you feel better- I've been sick for nearly six weeks, and it's getting very old.:(

Scrooge McSam

01-31-2008, 07:11 AM

There are only two things that would redeem me in your eyes - conversion to a liberal

Nah... I don't like all of them either.

or access to my ham.

Yes, Smithfield, that would be a generous offer, were it ever to happen, but Phoenix is too far to travel for ham salad.

Scrooge McSam

01-31-2008, 07:19 AM

Crap when did I miss you being out here though? I don't remember that.

July 9, 2006 - The famous Sac Meet

See GD and iSm's discussion upthread.

I don't know what they're talking about.

:whistling innocently icon:

Nephythys

01-31-2008, 09:28 AM

It's not cuz i can't make the meets...it's from one person who "attacked me via privately". Sorry but i can't defend myself and fight anymore. I've done that all my life and i'm burned out. I just wanted a place to be safe and loved and to be able to post on here up til today i never thought i would have to defend myself always thought this was a fun place..debate and express opinions...

Then that idiot deserves to be on ignore (and I don't care who it is-attacks in PM or otherwise are stupid and hurtful)- but leaving the rest of us due to an idiot?

Bogus- take a break but don't let them win!

I've been told not to post that i can't make this event or that event that it is getting old my excuses so...i won't....

Who the hell on this forum thinks they have the right to tell you what to post or what not to post?

That makes me sick too- in a pissed off way.:mad:

Not Afraid

01-31-2008, 09:36 AM

If the person giving you direction in a PM is a Moderator or an Admin, then you probably need to take a look at what they are saying. If the person is NOT a Moderator or Admin, then you should put the person on ignore and ignore the PM. To take any sort of action based on the comments on ONE person on a board of many is a of an over reaction.

Ponine

01-31-2008, 10:29 AM

I need to respond to what NA said.
I agree with her completely, BUT I also know exactly where you are coming from. I've been there, and I've blocked them.

It has to be up to you. Will that one person be the one who tells you what you should be doing?

If they are a Mod, fine, give their opinions some thought.
If they are not, stop and consider what they are asking you to do.

Alex

01-31-2008, 10:32 AM

I don't know who you are so I say this as a complete outsider and without a hint of bias:

Ok.

madmonkeygirl

01-31-2008, 10:44 AM

The person who has PM'd me and told me those things aren't a Moderator of this board so. Just a regular person on here...what you're saying on page 4 makes total sense. I don't want them to win.

People really need to think before they write. Yes we all have opinions, beliefs etc. This board is a place to express them and yourselves. But when one personally "attacks" someone in writing on here in private even it makes me stop and wonder "am i free to express myself anymore?"

Everyone has a right to respond to posts everyone without being mean and rude and hurtful. I did have not gotten an apology and no they weren't joking in my eyes...sorry but the way i see it was just plain outright mean and i did take it personally and was very upset.

It's not about making meets etc. It's about being able to post on this board and not have someone attack someone else. Enough said...They know who they are...

I did put them on ignore yesterday. Took them off last night...

yes i woke up with a little start of a head cold...oh no...i really don't wanna be sick with this thing. My mom and sister were i was around my mom at her worst during her sickness and my coworker is finally well and now...at least one more day of work then two days off to run errands even though i don't feel like it...

NirvanaMan

01-31-2008, 11:10 AM

July 9, 2006 - The famous Sac Meet

Ah yes. That was when Babette and I were on the adventure trip of several thousand miles:

Philly for work
Drive to Detroit (via PSU) to meet freinds
Beaver Island for the annual 4th of July party with my Detroit crew
Drive back to Detroit
Drive to Lake Cumberland, KY for a wild houseboat adventure/Redneck-themed wedding
Drive back to Detroit for work and for Babette to check out tres cool Henry Ford museum (now called the Henry Ford; how trendy)As for Eliza, she has to come up with her own excuses. She definitely was not with me back then. :)

innerSpaceman

01-31-2008, 11:13 AM

I know how you feel, madmonkeygirl. There was that infamous pancake time when the reactions of two people made me feel as if I couldn't post what was on my mind on the LoT.

I felt creeped out and uncomfortable for about a week.

Then I got over it.

Sounds like you're already on that wonderful road. Keep on truckin'

ETA: I miss Scrooge and the Sac Clan. Waaaaa.

sleepyjeff

01-31-2008, 11:23 AM

I really need to get down there and see all of you again someday......:)

Kevy Baby

01-31-2008, 01:18 PM

People really need to think before they write.People often don't. Just remember that and life gets simpler. I hate to use a tired cliché, but: It ain't you; it's them.

As for Eliza, she has to come up with her own excuses. She definitely was not with me back then. :)She was plotting

I really need to get down there and see all of you again someday......:)Yes, but will we get to see you?

madmonkeygirl

01-31-2008, 01:20 PM

Kevy i started a new thread but you are so right. It is the person not me. Obviously. I really appreciate everyone being so nice and supportive of me. I did nothing wrong. I know that now. And i will continue to post my beliefs feelings opinions etc. If they have a problem with that too freakin bad.

Disneyphile

01-31-2008, 01:25 PM

Who the hell on this forum thinks they have the right to tell you what to post or what not to post?
My attitude has been if you don't like what I post, please skip over it.

madmonkeygirl

01-31-2008, 01:40 PM

Exactly just because i might disagree with someone or get tired of someone's posts i do NOT go and PM them and make them feel bad. I just skim skip over their post....

innerSpaceman

01-31-2008, 01:51 PM

I wanna know who it was to we can ostracize them. Or put them in stocks in the public square.

LoT has a public flogging square, doesn't it??

sleepyjeff

01-31-2008, 01:56 PM

Yes, but will we get to see you?

A few of you got to see me on my last trip(Oct. 06') :D

I am told I beat Leo's time;)

Nephythys

01-31-2008, 02:21 PM

My attitude has been if you don't like what I post, please skip over it.

Exactly just because i might disagree with someone or get tired of someone's posts i do NOT go and PM them and make them feel bad. I just skim skip over their post....

Bingo- but some people feel too much of a need to control others and impose their control by embarrassing or hurting someone enough to do what they want.

You don't agree with me- I won't cry over it- move on and get over it.

SacTown Chronic

01-31-2008, 04:05 PM

LoT has a public flogging square, doesn't it??Yes, but it's been used only for pleasure thus far.

BarTopDancer

01-31-2008, 04:08 PM

Yes, but it's been used only for pleasure thus far.

baby you can flog me anytime ;)

Kevy Baby

01-31-2008, 06:13 PM

I hear it gets pretty floggy in the Bay Area.

Cadaverous Pallor

01-31-2008, 11:31 PM

I just wanted a place to be safeLife is dangerous

I wanna know who it was to we can ostracize them. Or put them in stocks in the public square.I don't think it's possible for this to be MORE of a public spectacle

wendybeth

02-01-2008, 01:22 AM

No outtings around here, unless Leo has something to say....;)

There are two sides to every story, and since only one has been publicly presented we're all a bit short of information- which is very fine with me. The matter has been resolved, but in the future it would be nice to not have a public viewing of a private matters like PM"s and Mojo- kind of walking a thin line here, and it would be unfortunate to let a small matter blow up for no good reason.

Now, if I could just get my cats to stop fighting.

Bornieo: Fully Loaded

02-01-2008, 01:28 AM

and....roll credits...

SacTown Chronic

02-01-2008, 07:06 AM

There are two sides to every story, and since only one has been publicly presented we're all a bit short of information-

Not to beat a dying horse here, but I have a bit of sympathy for the mystery PMer. I stumbled over what i can only assume is the post that started this drama and I gotta say....there are several ways to read it. As an outsider with zero stake in the thread, i understand what mmg was saying. Howeva, the post can be read in such a way that it could (and did) offend certain parties. Completely unintentional on mmg's part, no doubt. But there it is.

I did nothing wrong. I know that now. And i will continue to post my beliefs feelings opinions etc. If they have a problem with that too freakin bad. Agreed....say what you gotta say, girl. But you might want to edit your posts for clarity. So much of the nuance of verbal communication can be lost with message board posts -- and misunderstandings and hurt feelings can often be the result

scaeagles

02-01-2008, 07:36 AM

No outtings around here, unless Leo has something to say....;)

What else do I need to say when it's known I'm a male prostitute working his ham for small appliances?

Personally, and not meaning any disrespect to the OPer because different people have vastly different personalities, but I've been called many a name both literally and implied here on the LoT and precursors to this wonderful place by many members who continue to post here regularly and I communicate with. They include, but are not limited to bigot, homophobe, and racist.

Gotta have a thick skin. It took several months of jonvn on another site to inspire our great LoT founding fathers to establish this place. Some harshness or even downright stupidity here or there shouldn't scare anyone away.

Kevy Baby

02-01-2008, 08:53 AM

Now, if I could just get my cats to stop fighting.Have you listened to both sides of the story?

wendybeth

02-01-2008, 09:43 AM

Have you listened to both sides of the story?

Yes, and they're all wrong. Ennui is not an excuse to kick another kittie's ass.

cirquelover

02-01-2008, 10:11 AM

Yes but do you believe both kitties stories? You know kitties can lie too. Every time I break up a kittie fight they both look at me and say "She did it!". So who do you believe, hubby always takes the little ones side but she usually starts it. Speaking of which I can hear the boy right now yelling " Tigger no, don't attack Shadow!!" Never a dull moment with kitties!