Happy what?

[Nephythys]

Happy unimaginative, consumerist-oriented, and entirely arbitrary, manipulative and shallow interpretation of romance day!

Nothing says "I Love You" like dead vegetation and fat-saturated sugar products.:p

[Moonliner]

And yet, even with that if Jupiter does not come through he's toast.

[BDBopper]

I'd take the dead vegetation and fat-saturated sugar products in a heartbeat but I guess that's because I'm single and lonely. :(

Here's hoping the people who are more lucky than i am have a fantastic day filled with love, surprises, and...um...well...I won't go any farther. :evil:

[Nephythys]

And yet, even with that if Jupiter does not come through he's toast.

Not so! I am true to my anti-Valentine sentiment through and through.

Oh, I bought my kids big Hershey kisses. That's ok.

But Jupiter and I have our plans- exchange gifts (video games :D ) and have a casual dinner.

No dead flowers, NO candy, no dressing up and no jewelry- most likely not even cards.

Just a simple night together with gifts that suit us- and not this Hallmark holiday.

He's a lucky guy :p

[scaeagles]

My (thankfully) boyfriendless daughter and and her friends have renamed this day "Singles awareness day".

[RStar]

"Singles awareness day".

Better known as "SAD". ;)

I'm making a nice dinner for my wife, including Chocolate covered strawberries, some candy, and jewlery.

What, you don't think I like sex or what? :D

[scaeagles]

Well, when your wife can't keep her hands off you, you don't need bribes, Rstar.;)

[Alex]

Once again I am fortunate that Lani and I could hardly care less. We're all in favor of romantic dinners out and evenings spent together. Just not because a saints day for an 1800-years dead monk (and we don't even know for sure which one) was given increased popularity by a 600-years dead novelist.

But to those who will be in some day recognizing the day I hope it is great. For those who will be disappointed by the effort of another coming up short of your desires, I hope you kick the bum to the street and burn their clothes in a display of frustrated amour.

[Moonliner]

Just a simple night together with gifts that suit us- and not this Hallmark holiday.


Oh I agree. You can definitely ditch the commercialism but as a guy you still have to respect the day. If there was no gift and he went out with the boys for poker night....

[Nephythys]

Oh I agree. You can definitely ditch the commercialism but as a guy you still have to respect the day. If there was no gift and he went out with the boys for poker night....

I would stay home and play Rock Band!:snap:

[blueerica]

And yet, even with that if Jupiter does not come through he's toast.
Not so! I am true to my anti-Valentine sentiment through and through.

Oh, I bought my kids big Hershey kisses. That's ok.

But Jupiter and I have our plans- exchange gifts (video games :D ) and have a casual dinner.

No dead flowers, NO candy, no dressing up and no jewelry- most likely not even cards.

Just a simple night together with gifts that suit us- and not this Hallmark holiday.

He's a lucky guy :p

Hehe, Nephy, we're quite alike. J called the other day to apologize in advance for his not being here and his internet problems and no flowers and yada yada... I had to laugh, because I figured he'd know from our past conversations that I'm not into that sort of thing. Flowers are sweet, but unnecessary. If he was home, I might expect dinner, even if it was pizza. We'd throw in a movie and just be happy to be together. It's what it's about.

If we get each other something, like Nephy, it's not the traditional Hallmark crap. I got him the original Transformers movie. He's always doing nice stuff, so since he'll be home next week, I don't expect him to have anything for me (he's in Fort Dodge, Iowa, where there's pretty much nothing except an Air Force base), nor do I want him to go out of his way to get some sort of last-minute gift for me. He does so much for me already.

He was still nervous, on the phone, that I still expected it despite telling him otherwise. I think some other woman of the past ruined him by saying one thing and meaning another. He always thinks I have some sort of weird expectation that I just don't have.

[Kevy Baby]

Happy VD all!

[alphabassettgrrl]

My brother throws an "anti-Valentine" party every year. I'm not much for commercial holidays, so my hubby gets by pretty easy. We'll do some cuddling tonight, and of course I'm cooking dinner.

I do like my chocolate, though. Good dark chocolate with no chunky bits in it. Infused chocolate can be good but no pieces of stuff.

[innerSpaceman]

Ya know, I understand the Singles Blues on Valentine's Day. I've been there.


But there's no need to make yourself look even more pathetic by raining on the parade of those who want to celebrate a sweet holiday.


What's the difference between Valentines' Day and any other holiday?
Can only the Irish celebrate St. Patrick's Day? Is Christmas merely a consumerist excuse for money-making?



The byproduct of singles' awareness is, yes, very unfortunate. But the holiday itself is no more crass or manipulative than any other. Yes, the corporate world will try to make money off ALL of them. That doesn't negate the value of celebrating ... or not ... as you choose.


But don't knock those that do.


It's very poor form ... and it smacks of unattractive jealousy. Or worse, boring ennui.

[Nephythys]

Oh whatever- I bagged on the commercialisim of Christmas already.

See- I don't think it's "sweet" I think it is contrived. Contrived to make men feel obliged and guilty so they pay out the nose to show love to a mate they should be showing affection to every day.

I do think Valentines Day is different than other holidays- more trumped up for no reason other than rampant consumerisim. Much like Christmas-

Those that celebrate it - more power to them. I choose to celebrate it with casual indifference and a small exchange of gifts to those around me in "honor" of the sentiment of the occasion.


...and if I get "some" all the better :)

[wendybeth]

It's contrived, but what other holiday isn't? Personally, I don't care for Valentine's day but I don't hate it either. It just is.

I like what they did in Tori's homeschool class: The kids made their own valentine, then passed it around the class and had other kids sign it- like a yearbook. She got some lovely comments that I know made her very happy.:)

[LSPoorEeyorick]

Yeah, well, not everyone celebrates VD that way. We don't even exchange gifts, but we do set aside time to be together. We try to be romantic every chance we get (it's not hard because we're fond of the snuggling - both the literal kind and Marge Simpson's euphemism) but I tend to feel that holidays are a nice reminder to slow down and enjoy the people in your life. Has everything to do with time and energy, little to do with bowing to what the commercials "demand" of us.

Our VD date involves going to the pier to watch the sunset and take photos of it together - as I've alluded to before, nothing makes us feel more affectionate than being creative together.

And hey, dead vegetation is pretty.

[MouseWife]

I have to agree with iSm.

I am one that feels that love means never having to give me a gift to prove it. I do enjoy whatever we do and try to acknowledge the day as another holiday, like St. Patricks' Day, etc..

But, I will not rain on anyones parade. I've biten my tongue numerous times to keep from spewing sarcastic comments. Been around the block, seen a lot, but, I would feel like a chump if I took the sails out of someones happy day.

And, just to add, I am having a cozy day. Hubby left me a card full of wonderful sentiment. We are both working today but will eat out tonight. This is our 26th V'day. Honestly, I would not appreciate if he went out with the guys tonight. Nor would I go out with the gals. A little conoodling on the couch, perhaps watching some old family movies, touching back on what is important.

[Alex]

Hey Steve, quit raining on our parade raining parade.

Though I do like giving flowers in theory. But we're both such lazy housekeepers that the dessicated hulks remain for weeks after they have any visual merit remaining. So we don't bother.

But to answer your questions. Yes, I wonder why anybody other than Irish and Catholics would acknowledge St. Patrick's Day. Of course, anybody is free to do what they want, just as I could observe Ramadan. But since I'm not Muslim, why would I? Also, I don't like beer nor eat beef.

[cirquelover]

But to those who will be in some day recognizing the day I hope it is great. For those who will be disappointed by the effort of another coming up short of your desires, I hope you kick the bum to the street and burn their clothes in a display of frustrated amour.


Alex, you never fail to crack me up! I'll be sure to tell Gary why he has no clothes left at home, ;-) ! Actually he's on the road so he's safe. I always tell him not to bother with the triple priced flowers and such. Just surprise me sometime during the year with flowers and I'll be much happier and it's way cheaper!

The boy and I are making heart shaped cakes to give away to our friends. He really wants to get the heart shaped pizza for dinner that they advertise on tv, with the stupid beat up cupid!! I may just give in after the cake baking and decorating. Boys have a complete different idea of decorating than girls though, but they do a great job of decorating the walls and floor with sugar and little deco things!

[Nephythys]

It's contrived, but what other holiday isn't? Personally, I don't care for Valentine's day but I don't hate it either. It just is.

I like what they did in Tori's homeschool class: The kids made their own valentine, then passed it around the class and had other kids sign it- like a yearbook. She got some lovely comments that I know made her very happy.:)

That is a REALLY good idea. I may suggest that to my daughters teacher next year!:snap:

[Ghoulish Delight]

I've always said, just because one recognizes the utter b.s. that is social constructs doesn't mean one has to abandon them.

This has always been an interesting time of year for us since our first date was a mere 3 days before Valentine's Day 12 years ago. Of course, now that we have a "real" anniversary, we are less inclined to acknowledge that one (this year we both entirely forgot until 2 days later), but we usually do something, even if it's as simple as a home cooked meal with some candles and flowers.

Fortunately, I'm as fond of all things cute as CP is, so an exchange of cards with adorable puppy photos on them is always a sure and simple way to make each other smile.

This year will be particularly low-key as I will be in a class until 8:30. And then there's Lost and Survivor to watch.

[Alex]

I suspect Lani has already signed up for a raid this evening so she'll have a romantic evening of killing pixels while I watch my just received Quantum Leap* DVD and petting Pixel.

* Having not seen an epsiode since the final episode aired almost 15 years ago I fear this is going to turn to out as another example of how my teenaged tastes were really bad.

[3894]

http://7deadlysinners.typepad.com/photos/vintage_valentines/fork.jpg

[Nephythys]

ok- changing the direction a bit.....

Worst Valentines Memory- I wanted to do Valentines up and sweet for my ex husband. Flowers, candlelight dinner, card, candy, and me in slinky lingerie.

His response?

"What did you get for ME? You got the lingerie- what about ME?"

Fvcker.

Best Valentines memory- My dad- knowing for years I had no Valentine- always got me something pretty and special- with a small box of candy and a card. Dad's make good Valentines when you are alone.

I AM celebrating the day- I bought the kids candy and I WILL exchange gifts and spend time with Jupiter today after work- I just find the huge aisles of pink and red and fluff and the barrage of consumerism to be really artificial. I found the OP "wish" to be amusing and snarky in a tounge and cheek way- no wish to rain on people's celebration- just an expression of my own cynical reaction to this "holiday".

[MouseWife]

Best Valentines memory- My dad- knowing for years I had no Valentine- always got me something pretty and special- with a small box of candy and a card. Dad's make good Valentines when you are alone.


Dads are the best. :snap:

[Ponine]

http://7deadlysinners.typepad.com/photos/vintage_valentines/fork.jpg

Love that.

[LSPoorEeyorick]

Worst Valentines Memory...

Dude, what's with all the dwelling on the negative?

I have a pretty specific worst memory, but it took place in second grade (and some of you already know it via my screenplay.) But I'm not going to dwell on it today!

Best memories? Opening cards with my parents on Valentine's morning every year while I was at home, and often getting another cute card from them in my lunch bag. And Tom taking me to see Lady and the Tramp at El Cap, followed by eating spaghetti together.

[Nephythys]

Dude, what's with all the dwelling on the negative?

I have a pretty specific worst memory, but it took place in second grade (and some of you already know it via my screenplay.) But I'm not going to dwell on it today!

Best memories? Opening cards with my parents on Valentine's morning every year while I was at home, and often getting another cute card from them in my lunch bag. And Tom taking me to see Lady and the Tramp at El Cap, followed by eating spaghetti together.

Because it's my thread and I wanted to talk about past Valentines memories-

Gives some perspective on how I view things now.

I am hardly "dwelling" on it by mentioning it once.

[SacTown Chronic]

But do you still have the lingerie?

[Nephythys]

But do you still have the lingerie?

Maybe- but if I discuss how I look in it now I will just drag the thread to new lows :p


I wonder what color it is under the dust?

[ozron]

.

I think some other woman of the past ruined him by saying one thing and meaning another.

Oh, come on! That never happens! :rolleyes:

I love romance. This is a day for celebrating romance. Never mind that I have no romance in my life. We have a special show tonight, so I'll be sharing my evening helping sixty couples having a great time. It's going to be fun.

[Morrigoon]

My boyfriend has never, in 4 years of being together, bought me dead vegetation. *sigh* I wish.

But he'd better show up with SOMETHING today, since he got me jack schitt for my birthday. Boy's gonna be in big trouble if he skips this too.

[Nephythys]

ruh roh!

[Prudence]

In a gender role reversal, this year BT reminded me that the day was coming in sort of a tentative fashion and asked if maybe this weekend we could go out to dinner. I think I gave him a Look, since all I want to do is study. I feel bad now. :(

[Alex]

I hope you brought your clothes to work with you.

[BarTopDancer]

Dead vegetation is pretty but not a thing I care that much about - since I am allergic and it's so disposable. Never been into it. But as of 8:15am my day has pretty much been made (and not by dead vegetation).

[Strangler Lewis]

I agree with LSPE that sometimes it's nice to have signposts that remind us to stop and clip the roses. For me, Valentine's Day even provides opportunities for contemplation because an old girlfriend was born that day, and my father died the day after.

As a parent, I would prefer that the other kids would not tape candy to their classroom valentines, most of which, after a discreet period of hiding, will simply be thrown out.

[Ponine]

Hmm... best valentines memory.....

My parents divorced in 1978, so this was before that.

My Dad come home from work one Valentines with a heart shaped box of see's chocolates for my mom.
I remember it was pink and white gingham, with a pink rose.
I was envious.

Right outside my bedroom door was a linen closet with a shelf in the middle.
When I went to my room later to go to bed, not pouting, just going to bed, on that shelf was a White stuffed poodle with a red bow over her right ear...
and a red velvet box of chocolates.

He told me that he stopped on the freeway because he saw the stuffed dog, and grabbed it for me.
I have no idea to this day if that was fact or fiction, but I remember it!

[MouseWife]

Aw, Morri.

And Pru, ya have to eat! LOL Maybe, just maybe, BT will recognize the importance of your studies and bring over a nice picnic lunch to enjoy when you can take a break. That would be romantic: to recognize that your studies mean so much to you and that you would take the time to take a break with him. It doesn't take champagne and oysters, just acknowledgement.

I am happy that the Hubster knows that if we could, we would do something special. Just that thought is enough.

Okay, it isn't, but it is enough in the line of knowing what we mean to one another. The thought of sneaking in a get away at some point will be a fun surprise somewhere down the road....

[Kevy Baby]

Though I do like giving flowers in theory. But we're both such lazy housekeepers that the dessicated hulks remain for weeks after they have any visual merit remaining. So we don't bother.The bouquet I sent Susan for her birthday (1/9) is still sitting in our living room. But I will still send flowers. Just not today because she she used to work at a florist and knows how insane today is, so she doesn't want me to send flowers on a day like today (Mother's Day is the next worse day at a florist).

...while I watch my just received Quantum Leap* DVD and petting Pixel.

* Having not seen an epsiode since the final episode aired almost 15 years ago I fear this is going to turn to out as another example of how my teenaged tastes were really bad.The final episode of Quantum Leap was amazing. Just remember that none of the individual episodes match that one and it may not be too bad. I know I can still enjoy an episode of QL.

The episode where we found out that Al was a POW was also a good one.

[Alex]

I was talking about the show with Lani last night (she never watched) and I said that the only real concrete thing I remember was that all of us in the dorm absolutely hated the final episode -- it was a big group TV night.

So unfortunately, if my adult tastes have flipped so that I don't like the show but would love the final episode sadly I'll never get there because I'll stop Netflix from continuing to send then.

[Kevy Baby]

The first time I watched the last episode, there was a part of me that was angry that they left so many open ends (and not in the "we're going to make a movie" sense). In retrospect, I realized that the story was written in such a way as to get the viewer to think and to formulate their own opinions of what happened to the persons in the story.

It is one of the few TV episodes that got better with repeated viewings for me.

[Ghoulish Delight]

I hated most of the final season. They were trying way to hard to be deep.

[Kevy Baby]

I hated most of the final season. They were trying way to hard to be deep.If I recall the final season correctly, I would agree with you. But the final episode was stellar (IMO)

[Nephythys]

Quit derailing guys!

[LSPoorEeyorick]

I am hardly "dwelling" on it by mentioning it once.

I didn't mean just your bringing up of "worst memory," I was including everything else you were saying about the day. I agree that I have no interest in the Hallmark-brand Valentine's Day (TM), and I know that there are some people who use the day as an opportunity to milk their partner for another thoughtless gift. And yep, that's lame.

But on the other hand, sometimes those who have trouble expressing their feelings can get a lot out of this day. Not everybody can write or express their love, and maybe a Hallmark card helps them, and maybe this day reminds them to do it.

And then there's my dad, who took today as an opportunity to express his love, in his very little time not spent nursing his sick wife who is in a lot of pain, by writing a poem to tell her how much he loves her.

So, no. No big paper bag full of mean Valentines depicting a series of fat animals that arrived in my papier-mache mailbox in second grade, no memories of bad times or abusive partners, no sending-myself-flowers-because-I'm-lonely memories of my Valentines past can change that in the end, I think this holiday can be good, if you make of it what you want to. Which you do, and I do, and a lot of other people do. So don't malign the day, malign the people who misuse it.

[Kevy Baby]

Quit derailing guys!No.





I hereby sentence you to be hanged by the neck until you cheer up.

[Nephythys]

Perhaps- instead of lecturing me on how I view the day and speak of it- you can start a thread expounding on the happy bits of Valentines day.

Seriously.

[SacTown Chronic]

Kevy Baby's way ahead of you (http://www.loungeoftomorrow.com/LoT/showthread.php?t=7485), Neph.

[LSPoorEeyorick]

I don't think there's a ban on expressing an opposite opinion on a thread. And I'm sorry if I come across as lecture-y, but my dad's poem made me cry this morning, and being told that this whole day is basically bull****? Didn't sit well. I just said I agreed with you about the basic construct, man, I'm just trying to say: don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.

AND, btw, in the process, I told you ALL of my bad valentine memories...

[Nephythys]

No.





I hereby sentence you to be hanged by the neck until you cheer up.

Ok, I'm getting pissed off.

My OP was meat to be FUNNY.

I BOUGHT CANDY, I HAVE A GIFT FOR MY FIANCE, WE ARE GOING OUT TO DINNER- I AM CELEBRATING THE DAMN HOLIDAY!!!!

I am cheerful, and was amused until people decided that my topic was somehow unacceptable to them. Just don't post then- or start a HAPPY VALENTINES DAY- thread to counter my less than enthusiastic response to the over commercialized nature of todays Valentines culture.

Singing frogs that flash you while singing "It's Raining Men"? The 10 pound boxes of candy? The light up flashing roses- I hate that crap.

I am all for romance and love- I love surprises and cuddling and time together- but I do think Valentines day has lost most of what makes it authentic and deserves a certain amount of lampooning-

GOD people- so I brought up a bad meory. Ok- it sucked. Brought up good ones too- talked about my plans for the day. I bagged ON NO ONE for their plans or feelings about the day-

So would you kindly lay OFF OF MINE!

:mad:

[LSPoorEeyorick]

Fair enough. Just understand: I did feel bagged on by your OP.

[madmonkeygirl]

Matt and I celebrate Vday any other day of the year not just cuz of a hallmark tradition or a saint or whatever. Sorry but that's not what it is about nor is it just supposed to be on this one day of the year. For me he surprises me throughout the year with little gifts etc.

If i were to get flowers i have to put them up due to the cats more than anything. Jovi loves to get into the flowers and chew on them. But flowers are nice. But he doesn't have to get them for me on this particular day if he so desires not to.

We don't exchange cards. I'm working tonight so we're not gonna be together til i get home late very late tonight so in some ways i kinda hate today even though i have someone i love very much. It's like last year i was lucky i got out of work early enough and we went to dinner but oh well. We have the weekend to do that together. I'm selfish we're having an "us" weekend this weekend no theme parks nothing just him and me (Sunday).

My friends and i exchange gifts but so far my gifts are being mailed today after endless excuses from one friend so today is just an ordinary day for me...

[Nephythys]

I don't think there's a ban on expressing an opposite opinion on a thread. And I'm sorry if I come across as lecture-y, but my dad's poem made me cry this morning, and being told that this whole day is basically bull****? Didn't sit well. I just said I agreed with you about the basic construct, man, I'm just trying to say: don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.

AND, btw, in the process, I told you ALL of my bad valentine memories...

*sigh*
I am glad you have something that moved you today.

I never said the WHOLE thing was bullshyt- but when you go down that aisle at the store full of Valentines stuff- do you feel sincere affections in the intent of those gifts?

I don't.

[CoasterMatt]

I don't like Valentine's Day, it's a waste, but I'm not gonna get in the way of anybody's good time :)

[Nephythys]

Fair enough. Just understand: I did feel bagged on by your OP.

WHY?

It was a joke I saw on another site- some guy had it as his sig line.

It was hardly personal- had NOTHING to do with anyone here and was just (imo) an amusing sentiment.

[SacTown Chronic]

I AM CELEBRATING THE DAMN HOLIDAY!!!!
AND IF I FVCKING SMILE ANY WIDER, MY GODDAMN FACE WILL CRACK!

[Nephythys]

AND IF I FVCKING SMILE ANY WIDER, MY GODDAMN FACE WILL CRACK!

DAMN RIGHT- SO HAPPY FVCKING VALENTINES DAY!

[LSPoorEeyorick]

No, surely I don't like those gifts. I said so above! Yep, commercialism ruins everything, and that's why I make a lot of gifts I give for holidays, and focus chiefly on the time and love given, as opposed to what people imply is supposed to be done or spent. Like I said - we don't give Valentine gifts, we do what makes us feel romantic. Obviously, much like you do. We just have different ideas of what's romantic. And probably somewhere out there, there's someone who genuinely thinks that ugly stuffed frog is romantic.

But I missed the overtones of humor in your thread; to me it came across as bitter and snide. I shouldn't have taken it personally, but yeah, I'm on obnoxiously sensitive asshole sometimes and I accept that.

[Gemini Cricket]

My boyfriend has never, in 4 years of being together, bought me dead vegetation. *sigh* I wish.

But he'd better show up with SOMETHING today, since he got me jack schitt for my birthday. Boy's gonna be in big trouble if he skips this too.
Find someone else, dear.
:(

[Nephythys]

No, surely I don't like those gifts. I said so above! Yep, commercialism ruins everything, and that's why I make a lot of gifts I give for holidays, and focus chiefly on the time and love given, as opposed to what people imply is supposed to be done or spent. Like I said - we don't give Valentine gifts, we do what makes us feel romantic. Obviously, much like you do. We just have different ideas of what's romantic. And probably somewhere out there, there's someone who genuinely thinks that ugly stuffed frog is romantic.

But I missed the overtones of humor in your thread; to me it came across as bitter and snide. I shouldn't have taken it personally, but yeah, I'm on obnoxiously sensitive asshole sometimes and I accept that.

No. You should not have taken it personally.

I am not bitter and any snide tone was in an OP I did not write- I copied.

For fun.

[Nephythys]

Find someone else, dear.
:(

Oh god :(

Let's not go there :(

[Gemini Cricket]

You know, I took Nephy's OP as something fun, comedic.
:)

I have no Valentine's Day beau today, but that's okay.
Besides, I want my man to worship me everyday not just on Valentine's Day and on my birthday.
:D

[Nephythys]

You know, I took Nephy's OP as something fun, comedic.
:)

I have no Valentine's Day beau today, but that's okay.
Besides, I want my man to worship me everyday not just on Valentine's Day and on my birthday.
:D

As you should be ;)

[blueerica]

Wow, people really take this sort of thing seriously. Honestly, guys, it's all as we perceive it, and if you enjoy the holiday truly, someone else's lack of enjoyment shouldn't constitute a "rained on parade." It's not like anyone here's been criticized for enjoying the holiday. Sheesh!

And you know what... I think you guys are raining on the anti-VD parade! ;) Hrmph!

At any rate, reeeeeelax everyone. It's another day on the calendar, and for me, it'll be over in 12 hours. Not that it's a bad thing. Today has been generally beautiful, aside from a headache. And, I get to talk to my boyfriend when he gets out of work tonight. In other news, he and his co-worker Steve who had to go to Iowa, are going out on a lovely Valentine's Day dinner since they're both solo... for which I will tease him mercilessly!

Edited to add: I had a bunch of tabs open... I should have refreshed the page before I posted this. I don't mean to make anyone else more upset, and I apologize if this does. But, I'm not editing it to be different, because I love you all, and wish you a Happy Valentine's Day (Or Happy ValenTIMES Day, and I used to call it), and I wish the stupidity of confusion would cease shortly hereafter, so that we don't have to get all hung up on our hang ups. KTHX.

[BarTopDancer]

In other news, he and his co-worker Steve who had to go to Iowa, are going out on a lovely Valentine's Day dinner since they're both solo... for which I will tease him mercilessly!


J has a boyfriend. J has a boyfriend!

[Mousey Girl]

I have been wishing everyone, "Happy V.D."

[Nephythys]

I have been wishing everyone, "Happy V.D."

That is meant to sound like a disease- right?

[LSPoorEeyorick]

I imagine so! (I get no end of enjoyment from calling it that too.)

[BarTopDancer]

Today is supposed to be a giant mushy lovefest. Come people! I'm highly disappointed in LoT right now. There has been no inappropriate lovefest comments made!

[Strangler Lewis]

Today is supposed to be a giant mushy lovefest. Come people! I'm highly disappointed in LoT right now. There has been no inappropriate lovefest comments made!

LoT is the warm chocolate fondue where I come to dip the crusty French bread of my soul.

[Alex]

A very happy unhate day to you all.

[innerSpaceman]

Just to be clear, I didn't take Nephy's O.P. as all that bah-humbug.

I have to agree with her about the crass commercialism ... but it's already tried to ruin Halloween and Christmas, and has been working on craptacularizing Valentine's Day for decades. It's just part of Americanization, and we have to work harder to reduce the commerical aspects and increase the intended spirit of any official celebration that can conceivably turn a buck.


Even though I've got a date tonight ... Valentines' can make me miss my hetero days. Flowers, chocolates, waltzing ... that kind of stuff makes me cringe between two men, and I loved it so much as part of straight-folks romance rituals.


Ah well, in with the new. We have our own, not-quite-Hallmark celebrations in store. For starters, I think I'll wear that cool top I donned for NYE ... ya know the one with the padlocks?


Oh, is that TMI?


Well, mayb so ... but if I do find this an occasion to wear that a second time ... maybe I'll finally change my frelling avatar!


:iSm:

[Nephythys]

iSm- I love it when you say frell. I am just so happy to be in the company of a Farscape fan!

[Ghoulish Delight]

I have to agree with her about the crass commercialism ... but it's already tried to ruin Halloween and Christmas, and has been working on craptacularizing Valentine's Day for decades. You've got that backwards. Commercialization of Valentine's Day far predates that of Halloween or Christmas. VD commercialization paved the way for the others.

[Cadaverous Pallor]

I got chocolates, taffys, rock candy on a stick, and a couple of kiddy valentines (including a Jack Sparrow one) from....my coworkers.

I had no idea that it was now a "gift your coworkers" holiday. It was only a handful this year, but you just know that it's a snowball rolling downhill.

Very sweet of them, no bitterness here. :)

[Ghoulish Delight]

Leave all of that at work.

[Alex]

I got chocolates, taffys, rock candy on a stick, and a couple of kiddy valentines (including a Jack Sparrow one) from....my coworkers.

No sign of that around here. But then public libraries, like elementary schools, are an environment that tends to be hyperaware of holidays great and small.

[Ponine]

No sign of that around here. But then public libraries, like elementary schools, are an environment that tends to be hyperaware of holidays great and small.

And school districts. I've gotten valentines too.

[BarTopDancer]

Last year we did company wide co-worker appreciation day and could purchase (for 25 cents) the little valentines cards to be delivered. For $1.00 you could get a frosted fortune cookie to go with the card. I was flooded with cards and cookies - and to be honest it made my day. I usually feel so unappreciated and hated because of what I do, that it really made me smile.

This year, our office didn't do anything. Our IL office did and my boss sent me some chocolate.

[innerSpaceman]

You've got that backwards. Commercialization of Valentine's Day far predates that of Halloween or Christmas. VD commercialization paved the way for the others.

I thought that's what I said (yeah, that's what I wrote). But that's why I find the "charge" against Valentine's Day surprising. It's been the most crassly commecialized holiday since forever. Perhaps that's why some people think of it strickly in those terms. (And, in fact, it may truly have been invented by a Hallmark, FTD and Sees cabal for the express purpose of selling stuff).

On the other hand, I think noticing the crassness also has a lot do to with the polarizing factor of Valentine's Day that tends to unfortunately separate the significant-other-haves from the sig-other-have-nots.

:(


But love is a many-splendored thing ... and just because Hallmark decrees it so does not mean we have to limit the celebration of love to the romantic flavor only.

Let's celebrate all of love, our capacity to love, the love we have for our bothers and our sisters, whoa-oh-ohver this land.

:cool:

[Morrigoon]

And while we're at it, why don't give give medals to everyone that participates in the Olympics... to prove that we're all special ;)

[Mousey Girl]

This has never been my favorite day of the year. HE would send me flowers at work, with a snarky card, so that the women I worked with could see how great he was (yes, he once told me that). Later I would see the flowers on the credit card statement.

I guess it could be worse. One of my new co-workers received an awesome flower & balloon arrangement this morning. The card only had her name on it. She immediatly called her boyfriend/live-in and thanked him.... The gift was not sent by him. OOPS!

[innerSpaceman]

Hahahaha.


Pafooey on men who can only be romantic on Valentine's Day, and worse on those who do it for nefarious purposes.


I may have done it up bigger on V.Day, but was always one for random roses, casual candies, moonlight beach walks, candlelight anythings ....



.... but, then, of course ... wouldn't ya know ... i turned out to be G.A.Y.




oh well. :rolleyes:

[CoasterMatt]

We got AMAZING chocolate dipped strawberries from work today- dark chocolate swirled with milk chocolate; delightfully delicious, definitely a nice employee appreciation day perk :)

[innerSpaceman]

We used to exchange cute little cards and too-sweet candies .... but nothing says Valentine's Day quite like a school shooting (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23171567?GT1=10856).

:mad:

[lashbear]

But Jupiter and I have our plans- exchange gifts (video games :D ) and have a casual dinner.

That's just what we did - He bought me a bottle of my favourite Strawberry Champagne (Yellowglen Bella Vintage) and I bought him the DVD set of "Nigella Feasts" TV series. Then a normal dinner.

My OP was meat to be FUNNY.
What sort of Meat ?? Bacon candy ? :p :D

Love you. :cool:

[blueerica]

We used to exchange cute little cards and too-sweet candies .... but nothing says Valentine's Day quite like a school shooting (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23171567?GT1=10856).

:mad:

Oh my goodness... :(

I am a bit concerned... I know someone that's going to school in the area, though I'm not sure if it's his school.

Happy, happy, happy...

[Scrooge McSam]

"Nigella Feasts"

LOVE her!

[Jazzman]

I've never really cared either about Valentines Day. I do all this stuff every day anyway. If I lit fireworks every day (okay, every few days) the Fourth of July wouldn't be much fun either.

[Cadaverous Pallor]

No sign of that around here. But then public libraries, like elementary schools, are an environment that tends to be hyperaware of holidays great and small.True that. And to be honest, they weren't really "co"workers - my ex-boss, my current boss, and one of the children's librarians were the culprits. So there you go.

And while we're at it, why don't give give medals to everyone that participates in the Olympics... to prove that we're all special ;)You've got a point.

I've threatened in the past to do a formal dress dinner just for couples friends of mine around VD, for fun, to celebrate coupledom and the people who are able to make it work. When single friends of mine heard of the idea, I got some raised eyebrows (not that I thought anyone was offended, but obviously, not being invited to something always sucks no matter the circumstances). Seeming to snub the loose cannons was an aspect I didn't even consider when coming up with the idea.

It's ok anyway, since the idea never got off the ground and probably never will. Maybe '09?

[BarTopDancer]

^^^ that is post 6969 for CP.

[Morrigoon]

I got a prettily wrapped box of See's Chocolates :) (And he also got me a box of molasses chips - my favorite!)

[BDBopper]

Anyone want to trade the conversation hearts I got form my mom for some Reese cups? Conversation hearts are nice to look at but I don't particularly care for their taste.

We had a nice family steak dinner last night. I gave my mom a nice card, some candy, and tulips.

Well so nice to get that over with. Hopefully next year about this time I'll have found that perfect someone and I'll enjoy Valentine's Day more.

Valentine's Day does bring about something fun though. For the past ten years I put on a Valentine's Day Sock Hop for a local private school for kids with special needs (my mom is their secretary). I love seeing the kids have a good time. It means a lot to me cause I love them so much.

Can't stick around here too much....cause the Hop is tonight and I have to make sure everything is ready to go.

[Nephythys]

That is awesome BDB- really! :)

Well- it was a day. Went home- relaxed, played Rock Band til he got home. Went out- picked up dinner and then came home and squirreled ourselves away in our room- ate dinner, relaxed, exchanged gifts (which went well)-

I had a horrible back pain- I was pretty unhappy.

....and I didn't get any. :(

Damn it.

[blueerica]

*pats Nephy's back*

Well, my boyfriend did....

... well, he got dinner, anyway.

I made myself some penne with Bombolina sauce and chicken. Simple, but delicious. And then later I ate some more of the sage Derby cheese.

[Nephythys]

LOL- :)

Dinner was yummy- Panda Express. Orange Chicken- yummmm

Leftovers for lunch

[Alex]

Well our VD day happenings ended up being much more than I expected. Around 8 o'clock I shouted at Lani I was going to go get some food and unexpectedly she shouted back that her raid was about done and she'd go with me.

So we walked across the street to Macaroni Grill, laughed at the people who apparently got all dressed up for a romantic dinner at a chain restaurant where they'd have to wait an hour for a table while crammed like swine in a small little waiting area. Ordered some food to go, spent 15 minutes watching the kitchen work and making Hell's Kitchen comparisons.

Then with food in hand we walked back across the street and ate while watching an episode of Quantum Leap. Then I did today's New York Times crossword puzzle before going to bed and she returned to WoW.

[Gemini Cricket]

I had a very nice Valentine's Day evening.
Cherny, Gn2Dlnd and I ate dinner, candy and chocolate dipped strawberries at their apartment.
We also watched parts of Blu-Ray Planet Earth on their huge flat screen TV.
Amelie was the feature film last night. It's such a great movie. Truly one of the happiest films I've ever seen.
Wonderful night.
:)

[Nephythys]

OH that Planet Earth thing is the THING that makes me want a HD TV and a Blu-Ray player (going to get a PS3 for that)

[innerSpaceman]

Ugh, i'm so tired.


a very pleasant valentines night ... and morning.



but i'm ruined ... and, well, pleasant as the holiday was ... i don't think this particular romance is going anywhere.


Le sigh.

maybe i would have been better off watching Amelie with the boyz.

[JWBear]

We finished-off the leftovers in the fridge for dinner; then we watched Across the Universe.

In otherwords... Just another night.

[Sohrshah]

Ugh, i'm so tired.
a very pleasant valentines night ... and morning.
but i'm ruined ... and, well, pleasant as the holiday
was ... i don't think this particular romance is going anywhere.

Le sigh.

maybe i would have been better off watching Amelie with the boyz.

Awww. I'm glad you had a good night, and sorry your new relationship isn't going where you want it too. Better luck next time!

:)

[katiesue]

I was at an offiste all day - waching CNBC for 10 hours (I'm not in the meeting I'm there to assist the persons who are in the meeting).

Then Maddy called on her way home from school. All excited. She's had a "boyfriend" since Tuesday. He got her a rose. She was just thrilled.

Then she calls me back about 4 minutes later. Crying hysterically. Apparently he doesn't like her anymore. Poor kid. Sucks to be 12.

But she got two Webkins so that made her happy and by the time I got home from work she told me she was over him.

[innerSpaceman]

He got her a rose. She was just thrilled.

Then she calls me back about 4 minutes later. Crying hysterically. Apparently he doesn't like her anymore. Poor kid. Sucks to be 12.


Wow. Sounds kinda like my Valentine's Day.


Except I got waaaay more than a rose. ;)







And there's a very appropos, very off-color remark just itching to follow that ... but i won't go there.

[madmonkeygirl]

Well no card no dead vegitation no candy nothing not that i expected it but i am battling the stomach virus flu going around and i nearly passed out last night at work almost before leaving for home. Thank goodness i was able to sit down in the office and make it to my car. Had a fever and was so pale i scared my poor manager i think badly. Doing a bit better this morning. Gonna drink tons of liquids and take some medicine and hope i can make it thru my shift tonight. vday blah...now he'd better make it up to me on my birthday in April.

[blueerica]

LOL, iSm... don't say it... don't say it... I have a feeling that my off-colored remark is either right on the spot, as it were, or that I'm dangerously not off-colored enough!

And, oh, to be 12. Visible Maddy mojo. Been there, done that, and though it was a long time ago, I still remember how it does suck to be 12.

[Kevy Baby]

Then with food in hand we walked back across the street and ate while watching an episode of Quantum Leap.So, did QL stand the test of time?

[Moonliner]

Today I walked out to lunch past a jewelry store. The parking lot was overflowing so I took a quick look inside.

It looked like a lot of guys trying to buy their way out of the doghouse.

[Alex]

It was ok. I'm amazed at how truly horrible the SFX were.

[innerSpaceman]

LOL, iSm... don't say it... don't say it... I have a feeling that my off-colored remark is either right on the spot, as it were, or that I'm dangerously not off-colored enough!

Nope, you're there. :evil:

[BDBopper]

Oh poop! All out of gel! I thought there was some below the bathroom sink. Ack! :eek:

Not only that but I can't find my Mickey & Minnie jukebox pin. :(

Too late to fix those things now. I'm off!

Wish me luck!

BTW: I've donated a prize for the raffle on behalf of the LoT, a very nice Disney snowglobe. Don't worry you owe me nothing. I just wanted y'all to be a part of the evening in spirit. :)

[cirquelover]

Have a great time at the dance with the kids! Thanks for thinking of the LoT, we'll be there in spirit!

[Ghoulish Delight]

Oh poop! All out of gel! I thought there was some below the bathroom sink. Ack! :eek: Problem solved (http://www.loungeoftomorrow.com/LoT/showthread.php?p=192356#post192356).

[Gemini Cricket]

Maddy, men are like merry-go-round horses. You have ups and downs with them and when they leave you, it's just a matter of time before they remember themselves and come around again. But ignore this one when he comes back...
:)

Hang in there.

[alphabassettgrrl]

I had a nice quiet VD with some nookie at the end. I made dinner, and while I was finishing the veggies, hubby cut up the roast. He cut one of my pieces into a heart shape. He makes me giggle.

[Jazzman]

So how's this for a Happy Valentines Day story? I get a call yesterday from one of the girls I work with and she's obviously fighting tears. An email came in letting us (and 150 other stores) know that we're closing. As of closing the night before we're all no longer employees of our company. We now belong to a liquidator and will be selling off everything until the store is empty and then we're done. Benefits, insurance, retirements, everything are all now canceled. It doesn't bother me much because I'm just there making a little extra bread while I'm in school but I really feel for the full timers who were in it for the long haul. Emails from all the other closing stores started flying with rantings and lots of venting. Some people have been with the company for years and are now out on their @$$es. Super lame. The kicker? A box labeled "Do Not Open Until Directed To Do So" had arrived that morning. We, of course, opened it and it was full of "Store Closing" signs so this has been in the works for weeks, if not months, and they just sprung it now.

So yeah, in a way, I was involved in a new Valentines Day Massacre yesterday. Fun times!


(Oh, so BTW, if any of you want some nice leather goods make a trip to a nearby Wilsons Leather over the next few weeks. There's bound to be one closing near almost everyone and from the looks of it stuff is going to be marked way, way down. Good hunting!)

[Kevy Baby]

So how's this for a Happy Valentines Day story?How's this:

Susan got a call yesterday from her doctor, the day after her mammogram (whenever they call the day after a mammogram, it is not a good thing), with the news that they found a cyst on one side and a calcium buildup on the other. They are getting approval from the insurance company to do the biopsy which she will be going in for as soon as the approval comes in.

She's it is nothing to worry about yet, but I am freaking out.

[Gemini Cricket]

Jazzman - Sorry to hear that.

Kevy - You're not allowed to freak out. You need to be strong for Ms. GusGus. Besides, there's nothing to freak out about yet.

GusGus - Sending the good vibes your way.

[blueerica]

Bleh -

Jazzman - so sorry to hear that for your co-workers and for yourself, even if you don't feel as affected.

Kevy - I'm with GC above.

GusGus - ditto the above.

[BarTopDancer]

What Erica said.

[lizziebith]

My VD was quiet until the ex started flexing custody-muscle* telling me I couldn't take the kid to visit my dying Dad. Oh, but he can miss school when YOU take him to Disneyland? People who think my ex is a saint abound (it's his carefully-crafted veneer) but there's a REASON we're divorced. Oh, yeah, he ruined the day, which was the point...:mad:

I will take him to COURT if I need to, stupid control freak. My Dad deserves to see his only grand-kid one last time, even if it means missing two lousy days of school.

Oh, and I've been hearing reports from the kid that whenever he misbehaves the new threat is always "you won't get to visit Mom." I LOVED his response: "isn't that illegal?" Smart boy!

Anyway, back to VD. Hope GG is okay...and hugs to everyone else that got strife along with the flowers and chocolate (or instead of).

* on the custody issue: I made a mistake. Rather than have a horrible fight, again, I caved. Believe me, I've been paying the price for that ever since. Non-custodial moms are viewed as pond-scum (abandoners, selfish, barely-even-human females), and "single-parent" dads don't have turds that have any odour. This I know NOW. But besides what it did for our respective social standings, what upsets me is the terrible stuff that he's put into the kid's head. For that, I will suffer forever.

[Moonliner]

How's this:

Susan got a call yesterday from her doctor, the day after her mammogram (whenever they call the day after a mammogram, it is not a good thing), with the news that they found a cyst on one side and a calcium buildup on the other. They are getting approval from the insurance company to do the biopsy which she will be going in for as soon as the approval comes in.

She's it is nothing to worry about yet, but I am freaking out.

Hang in there you two. Remember the overwhelming percentage of cysts are benign. The waiting should be the hardest part of this...

[Jazzman]

Oh damn Kevy, you win. I'm so sorry. I'm sure it will all turn out fine and be nothing bad but I'm sorry you have to have the stress in the meantime. If this happened to us I know I'd be crawling up the walls. Good luck. I'll send out positive waves to you guys.

[Kevy Baby]

Intellectually, I know it is not going to be a problem. I always stress the worst at the unknown point. Once I know (even if it is worst case), then I can deal with reality.


What a strange thread to have brought this up in!

[Not Afraid]

The calcium deposit is probably something more to watch for in the future than a cyst. Either way, this is why women have mamograms. They usually catch something (if there is anything) early on and it gets delt with before it becomes a bigger issue. Early detection is key. Remember, I'm still around to grace you all with my presence. ;)

Please call me, either one of you, if you want to talk.

[RStar]

I'm having a hard time reading these posts with VD in them without thinking of this:

VD (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexually_transmitted_disease)

Sorry.;)

I had a pretty good VD *snicker* last night. I made a great dinner, and our daughter joined us. My better half loved the locket I gave her.

[BDBopper]

Problem solved (http://www.loungeoftomorrow.com/LoT/showthread.php?p=192356#post192356).

THANK YOU!!!

[BDBopper]

GusGus...my parayers and thoughts are with you. Sending good vibes your way!

[BDBopper]

Tonight was very interesting and very successful.

First of all backstory. a local karaoke company helps me put these Hops on every year. Whenever the venue is picked and the date set I get on their calendar. Well good news for the company is that their business is booming right now. the bad news for me is that they were triple booked tonight and they have three rigs. they could cancel one gig but it would cost them business. I learned this about three weeks ago and I was literally in tears. I wasn't upset with the company but with the venue that wouldn't let them have a night off so they could help a worthwhile cause.

Well luckily for me one of their employees was nice enough to bring his own equipment to represent the company and save the day.

Things did turn interesting.

The CD player he had malfunctioned and the sound was not reaching the speakers. Well good thing he pulled out his laptop computer. This was about thirty minutes until show time. But I needed my external hard drive to help things move along so he drove me back home and I scurried up the stairs and got my gear to run down the stairs and get back to the church fellowship hall where this event was going to take place. So we arrive there about 10 minutes late and have to set things up again and the laptop won't read the external for some strange reason. Well fortunately the CD player in the laptop worked and I was able to play what little we had between us (I didn't bring but what I needed to get by since he said he was going to bring more than I had...well it didn't end up that way. It ended up that we stalled long enough so we didn't run dry musically.

The kids had a ball as always and much fun was had by all! This isn't one of the school's biggest fundraisers but we ended up raising $500 after cost which is much larger than the usual amount raised. Yay us! :)

BTW I dedicated a song "Pennsylvania 6-5000" by the Brian Setzer Orchestra to my swanky friends at The Lounge of Tomorrow! I like that song and think it was worthy of such a dedication. I hope you will agree! :)

And now I pass out...and bring on the usual cold/flu that I get afterwards because this time of year is bad with most of the kids being sick or carrying something. Like I said earlier this is a labor of love. I truly enjoy doing this because of the smiles on their faces. It's not about me or what I want...it's about the kids having the time of their lives!

[innerSpaceman]

what the freck happened to this thread? Jebus!


um lizzibeth, Jazzman, GusGus and freaked Kevy ... my sympathies and best well wishes for your current suckiness that's totally sadified the valentines day thread.

[lizziebith]

Sorry I sadified things...sometimes I go to post something and another thing vomits itself up. I'm really okay, and happy, and the day spent with my love was great-as is every day with him. I'm actually pretty happy these days, in spite of the odd sucky thing that happens. I'd've deleted that post, but I try not to do that kind of thing any more.

What I was planning to post about was the awesome bleu cheese and spinach quesadilla dinner I made for us for VD din -- sooooo tasty!

And my boy is safely tucked in his bed, in MY place, tonight! So the planet spins properly on its axis...:D

[innerSpaceman]

no, what the frell. first of all, your's was not even the sadifyingest post of the bunch. There was no cause to delete the post (though you're free to do whatever). Were you also going to somehow delete the other bad news posts, or go back to page one and remove the anti-Valentines arguments?

i was just kidding about the unexpected turn a thread about Valentines Day had taken. But threads do that. It was just odd, not inappropriate.

And besides, Valentines Day is so OVER.