Name change-freaking out

[Nephythys]

Ok- I trust DP, I trust FP. I think I trust Orange County-

But when I signed my marriage license/certificate- I signed with my last name (maiden name) because I was told to. I did not sign with my new last name.

Now I am freaking out that I did it wrong- that I should have signed it wth my new name. I am worried that now I will have trouble getting my new SSN card and license.

So I am freaking out now-

Reassurance anyone? Advice?

Seriously concerned :(

[Ghoulish Delight]

Signing with your maiden name was the correct thing to do.

[blueerica]

Wish I knew more about it, but am glad that I'll know what's up after this.

Sorry I can't help you more... :(

[Nephythys]

Signing with your maiden name was the correct thing to do.

But when I go to change my name here the DMV wants something showing the name "change"- does the marriage cert do that?

Then the SSN office wants proof of old and new name- which means I have to do the license first.

I am trying to get some confirmation from the CO DMV and hitting hold times and idiots.

[Brigitte]

When I got married and moved at the same time, the DMV just wanted a certified copy of my marriage license, which had my maiden name on it. I don't remember what SS wanted.

[katiesue]

I just used my marriage license at SS, then the SS change for DMV. And since the SS lady wasn't all that quick - I did mine before we got married, they didn't notice that the copy wasn't certified yet.

[Kevy Baby]

So I am freaking out now-

Reassurance anyone? Advice?You're screwed.

[alphabassettgrrl]

As I remember, I signed with my maiden name. I'll have to see if I can find it. Do the DMV change first, as that is easy. Then you have a document with your new name and everything else should be easier.

I don't think there's much hurry; I wasn't very quick to do mine. I think we actually filed our taxes before I took care of any name change issues.

[Nephythys]

You're screwed.

Thanks

As I remember, I signed with my maiden name. I'll have to see if I can find it. Do the DMV change first, as that is easy. Then you have a document with your new name and everything else should be easier.

I don't think there's much hurry; I wasn't very quick to do mine. I think we actually filed our taxes before I took care of any name change issues.

I just want to get it done- going to the DMV after work.

[Not Afraid]

I just didn't change my name.

[Disneyphile]

It's really not a big deal. Relax. ;)

You signed correctly. The marriage license shows both names - your maiden one, and your new one (it comes after his). ;)

[Nephythys]

*ok*

[Disneyphile]

You gots da post-wedding jitters. :p

:D

It's so neat, isn't it?? Mrs... wife... spouse...

*happy sigh*

[Nephythys]

It is...yes. :)

[RStar]

I just didn't change my name.

Oh! I always thought Chris's last name was Afraid! :D

[alphabassettgrrl]

I was horribly torn over whether I was going to change my name or not. On the one hand, life will be smoother if our names match. On the other hand, it's *my* name and why shouldn't I keep it?

It's been 12 years now and I'm still secondguessing the decision.

[Nephythys]

Well- the license change was handled successfully- now the SSN and the two major things are done.

Already changed credit cards, insurance and chiropractor records :)....but there is yet more to do. Gah!

[libraryvixen]

Changing your name is very time consuming! The SSN and the driver's license are the ones that matter because they help to verify your new name for everything else that you need to change. (Gah! That is a mighty long sentence!) I had to change my name once when I just got married... and then 5 years later when we got divorced!

[Kevy Baby]

Changing your name is very time consuming!Hmm... that is just the opposite of Susan's experience. She said it was a breeze for her and didn't take any time at all.

Granted, that was 11 years ago, so things probably have changed.

[DreadPirateRoberts]

Hmm... that is just the opposite of Susan's experience. She said it was a breeze for her and didn't take any time at all.

Granted, that was 11 years ago, so things probably have changed.

What was her name before it was Susan :confused: Inquiring minds want to know.

[sleepyjeff]

Oh! I always thought Chris's last name was Afraid! :D

Me too..:snap:

[Kevy Baby]

What was her name before it was Susan :confused: Inquiring minds want to know.Moon Unit

[libraryvixen]

Hmm... that is just the opposite of Susan's experience. She said it was a breeze for her and didn't take any time at all.

Granted, that was 11 years ago, so things probably have changed.

I had to bring around a page from my divorce decree that said I was changing my name back to the maiden one. Some places wanted to see the officially stamped page, but I remember having to fax over proof of name change to others.

[Kevy Baby]

I had to bring around a page from my divorce decree that said I was changing my name back to the maiden one. Some places wanted to see the officially stamped page, but I remember having to fax over proof of name change to others.Was it easier changing it when you got married or when you got divorced?

This may be an argument in favor of staying married for silly reasons :D

[Not Afraid]

Chris often gets called by my last name by people who know me professionally. I sometimes forget to introduce him by both his first and last names.

However, I LOVE getting calls for Mrs. Meinke. "I'm sorry, but she doesn't live here."

[LSPoorEeyorick]

I don't mind being called Mrs. Moore, even though it's not my name. I like being reminded now and then that technically that could be my name if I chose it.

[Not Afraid]

For me, its just a good way to tell if the person calling actually knows us or not. I've been LC for all of the 24 years we've been coupled. Its usually a unwelcome caller who calls me Mrs. Meinke.

[LSPoorEeyorick]

I just have relatives who can't get it through their head (or don't want to) that I kept my name. (They don't do it in the midwest a lot, and a lot of them didn't understand why in heaven's name I kept Powers.)

But I can see how it'd be stellar for pre-emptively dumping telemarketers!

[Prudence]

My mother would never intentionally violate a rule of etiquette, so all mail from her to both of us has each name on a separate line. The rest of my family, both sides, addresses mail to Him and Me Elkins.

I guess I should be happy they don't do Mr. and Mrs. Him Elkins.

[Gemini Cricket]

At first, when I was with Ralphie, I thought it would be kinda cool to take his last name if we got married. And then I changed my mind. I like my last name. So if I ever get married, I'll keep my name. Although I do like the sound of Brad Gyllenhaal.

[MouseWife]

GC~ :D

Geesh, I wish I could remember how I did it. As far as the family goes, there are still members who don't know my last name. I still receive xmas cards to the 'Romeros'.................

So true about the calls, Lisa. You just know it is a sales call if they don't address you properly. I have to keep from laughing.

Oh, and Nephy, Congratulations!! I haven't been around much and I can tell by this thread and your avatar that you've gotten married!! :cheers:

[katiesue]

I want to change mine back. Maddy thinks then we won't "be a family" anymore. But she calls my Maiden name my "real" name and my current last name my "fake" name.

Besides - McQueen is a way cooler name than what I've got now anyway.

[wendybeth]

I kept my maiden name for years, then finally did the hyphenated version of both of our names. Takes forever to write my signature. I just filed the marriage cert with SS, then took my new ss card to the DMV and got a new license.

[alphabassettgrrl]

I can weed out junk mail because some lists have me listed as "Mr. Kerry R".

[JWBear]

Years ago, I once got a call from someone who asked for "the lady of the house". I replied, "speaking". He hung up. :D

[Nephythys]

Taking his last name was a no-brainer for me. I love my parents but a 9-4-11 letter name is a doozy. I always wanted a shorter name- now I have it- it's cute too.

Went to the SS office yesterday- could have mailed it in but I did not want to send original documents away for that long. So the big changes are done- now on to the rest.

[libraryvixen]

My maiden name is lengthy, but I love it. My married name was Nelson. *shrug* I was in the middle of the alphabet and everyone knew how to say it. What fun is that?

Would I hyphenate it if I were to wed again? Most likely not... but the thought of taking up 2 lines of my huge name on my driver's license is very tempting! ;)