How about some sort of fun retro styled dress or something like this:

I love these shoes

I am with Betty, patterns are not much worn for social occasions in the east, I would say knee length or longer, soft color silk or the like, no bare arms, stockings and heels. You have such a lovely figure, something constructed would be charming on you!. And remember you can always hire a gown if it is not your kind of thing.

I love your dress. Then again, I am totally Californian.

I have heard, though, some comments from some Easterners at a wedding here in Coronado. Some 22 years ago. Anyways, they were totally like, I think BTD was saying, 'It is *blah blah* time of the year, you wouldn't see people on the East Coast wearing that this time of year'. So.....I don't know what 'so'. :0)

Is this the situation where the little black dress would work? But, what material? Geesh, does it matter what type of jewelry? Is black not doable?

Jen, I hope you have a great trip, the wedding is just a part of it. :0)

Oh, I love the clothes you've posted, Betty!!!

Go Skyclad.

I've no opinion but wouldn't the easiest option, compared to us guessing be to email a link to that photo to the bride and say "I'm not entirely sure how formal you want to be and don't have Greg to match levels with, do you think this is nice or are you expecting something more formal?"

Well as long as we're posting fashions, this would look lovely on you. And that site offers custom sizing if you prefer (extra fee)

Morrigoon, that is lovely! What, though, about the bare arms? Do shawls/wraps still work?

Alex. That is just way too simple. But, I am not sure, I think that part of the fun is surprising everyone there with what you are wearing. And, carrying it off as if 'Oh, this? ' and have it look like it is no big deal.

Am I way off base?

I'm pretty sure that traditionally it is only the bridesmaids who are seeking to surprise the bride with what they wear to the wedding.