We actually don't like Vegas. But I appreciate the suggestion for a simple approach. Our LA party will be smaller-- coming from Catholic midwestern stock, the Michigan wedding is pretty weddingy. Though I like that we're showing a movie for part of the reception-- that's pretty us.)

Aw, I love "Canon" :(

I always thought I would use the theme from Somewhere in Time (Based on Rachmoninoff's Theme from Paganini) as the enterance music for the bride, "The End" by the Doors for me and Carmina Burana as the exit music. First dance would be a Chicago song.

Oh well, a guy can dream right?

LSP - You should go with whatever your personalities call for.

I'd be putting a kibosh on that church and going elsewhere !!

Fancy telling someone they can't have recorded music at their own wedding if they choose to. :eek:

I'd love to hear a truly valid reason for it.

What's that got to do with getting married? So how about Elko? If you went to Elko you'd get a nice road trip out of it, a certainty of no meddlesome attendants, and I could tell my owl mutilating story.

There, now you can't say that the promise of an owl mutilating story isn't worth throwing all your plans out the window to get married in one of Elko's fourth-rate casinos, can you?

There is a rather good reason for it. It's a small country church without a sound system.

And, no, we won't be going anywhere else. I'm very grateful there's a church within a five-minute drive of my parents' home. My mother has been too ill to leave the house even once in the past eighteen months. And a handicapped-accesible church in the near-vicinity, which she might be able to get to? I'll be damned if I sacrifice my mother's attendence for a ****ing song recording. She feels very strongly about us getting married in a church (she's very religious; to her it isn't valid if it isn't in a Catholic church.) So we're doing this for her.

Sorry to be brisk there, Lashy. I know you're on my side. But there have been several people in online communities lately who've criticized the decisions I'm making. Yes, it's our day. But it will feel incomplete if my mother cannot attend. And if there's a chance she can, we're going to adjust for it.

Well, we do want our family to be there. All of our family. And anywhere other than where we're doing it wouldn't allow it to happen.

The owl mutilating story, though, I have to hear. Spill.

Not unless you get married in Elko.

And please don't take my comments at criticism of choices. So long as your choices are your (second person plural) choices then there is no criticism to be fairly offered by anyone.

No, of course-- it certainly wasn't you, Alex. Tom and I are a united front and are happy with all of our choices, given the circumstances. Let's just say that I've taken my leave from online wedding planning communities.

What if we have the LoT wedding reception in Elko?

A friend new a girl who walked down the aisle to Come on Eileen. Fun.

If I'm ever wed, I'm not walking up or down any aisles. We're all just gonna have to meet up at the right time and place 'cause there's no way I'm marching forth in front of a large group of people, all eyes on me, approaching a groom as if we're seeing each other for the very first time.

The music selecting seems like a crazy but fun chore. I'm not sure I'd ever be able to muddle through it all and narrow down choices, so the whole "Hang out in a bar until someone says, "Weddings On!" then flocking to the center for the exchange of vows / slurred vowels, would work best for someone like me, I think.

I wish you the best of luck getting it just so for you guys!

{My point being, after that ramble, is that it all sound so stressful and I really do hope it's alls well that ends well with the wedding planning. You guys have to make so many decisions in such a short time!}

xoxo