The reds she had poached from my make-up looked very nice on her- but she is only 10. So the reds stay with me and she can wear them on special occasions- but for everyday it's gloss, chapstick or pinks.

This is one of a billion parenting issues where I'd follow my own inner moral compass and really don't care what other people think.

I can't help but wonder if you're going to adhere to the results of this poll...and if Rose knew that "the rules" weren't actually your rules, would she respect them at all?

What I'm trying to say is that I vote for C - do what is right for you.

The poll is somewhat in jest. In our conversation I told her that I am not the only one who would not let a 10 year old go about in red lipstick-and I would put a poll up to ask:D

In the end-you are right-I am going to do what is right for me. My little girl is growing up fast enough without putting on red lipstick.

I took the reds away for now, and told her we would pick up some lighter colors so she can carry on with her girly fun.

Wolfette started wearing lipstick (pinks, pastels etc) when she was 10 or 11, but not to school. I don't remember her ever liking dark colors, she thought they made her look cheap.

Now she likes the natural look at 13, so she only wears chapstick now.

I like this option, and what you said later on in the thread. I think out-right banning something just makes it all the more appealing to do. Plus, it adds further stigma to doing something or not doing something.

I voted "Yes" because "No" is much more finite in its meaning to me.