Most of the people I know who are single but profess to be looking make one of the following two mistakes:

1) completely discounting someone they get along well with, love being with, consider their "best friend", with whom they have so much fun and so much in common and the person makes them feel great about themselves -- all because the person doesn't measure up to some preconceived notion of what they need/deserve in a mate. (true example: my friend who is nearing 40 and wants a guy older than her, never married, no kids, likes cats, who has all his hair, and who has the body of an underwear model. I mean seriously - if that's what you want, then fine, but don't whine to me about how you don't have any dates....)

2) completely discounting someone they feel exceeds their preconceived notion of what they need/deserve in a mate because obviously that person will want nothing to do with them, and thus denying someone who is not impeded by mistake 1 from having a happy pairing.

Actually, one's been divorced for five years, the other just this year.


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Oh. :D I was sort of kidding....;)

I am wondering if they may think you are out of their league? This can happen. People go round and round.

Hey, you've seen 'Friends'. :D :coffee:

Pru, you are oh so wise!

On #1, my best friends, for some reason, have always been women. I currently count among my closest friends three women who are intelligent, talented, beautiful women I would be thrilled to be with, but their husbands seem to object.

#2, I'll have to think about. My one relationship since being on my own taught me to doubt the mental stability of any woman who is attracted to me.

Oh, and MW, you're so funny. I can gaurantee that's not the case.

Why?

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Okay, so I completely misread one part of Pru's post: