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ye shall be judged...

I thought of one for this year - finish "landscaping" our back patio.

My resolutions or intentions or whatever one wants to call them..

Tell the people I love that I love them often, they can't read my mind. I'm not talking gush fest, just a simple, hey and by the way you're important to me, I love you, thanks for being in my life kind of comments.

work more on my old school photo scrapbooks...I love the digi projects but the stacks of prints mock me.

host two amazing people for a fun filled weekend this spring

visit my happy place at least 4 times in 2009

do at least two 'touristy' things that are so available in my area that I've never taken the time to enjoy in the last 8 years that I've lived in the area.

I don't think I have resolutions, exactly. There's some stuff I want to keep up - regular swimming and healthy eating (as a by-product I lost 20 pounds this year.) Mostly I seek an increase of zen in my life, and also an increase of creativity. 2008, not ideal, when I looked back upon it. I'd like to return more to the energy and creativity of 2007.

NYE I drank a couple of glasses of champagne at midnight and after, then went to bed. I woke up before 8am, chipper and alert - very unusual for me. No champagne last night, and this morning I'm my usual half-asleep grouch.

Maybe I need to resolve to start drinking champagne every night before bed.....

I resolve to spend more energy and attention on the things that deserve it and less on the things that do not.

MS i love scrapbooking. Don't let the pile of pictures intimidate you trust me. I'm working on my 3rd scrapbook as of now (i combined a few Bon Jovi shows into another one to save space on each individual book). It's alot of fun actually and i can pass the time creatively. My Minnesotta trip from 2005 i haven't begun cuz of the intimaidation of the piles of pictures waiting to be scrapbooked...lol

I forgot to add to my list previously posted :
To see as many Bon Jovi shows as possible when there is a tour. :)

I'll continue to work on my interactions with others. There's still so much to learn about the nuances of friendship and teamwork, plus how to balance that with individuality.

I'll continue to work on thinking optimistically on all things, be they short or long term, in my control or not. I'll keep an eye out for the self-flagellation that undermines me and remember that not achieving a goal is punishment enough.

And, I RESOLVE to kill the perfectionist living in my head that loves to make everything look like garbage.

I pretty much held to my "non-resolution" of last year by keeping around only good things (as much that was in my control, anyway).

However, with the chaos that happened, I'm actually making a few goals for this year since this has been the most significant welcomed change ever, despite my feelings of not making resolutions just because it's a new year.

1. Respecting my own feelings. This is already something that I've been working on, and is a big struggle for me, and I often back down, putting the feelings of others first. I will still be considerate, but I will also consider mine now too. This might upset some folks because I'm not going to be as "nice" or "giving", but respect will be mutual. My feelings should matter just as much as anyone else's. Last year taught me much about that. Some people have taken advantage of my "chameleon" adapts-to-any-situation state, and that's gonna change. ;)
   
2. Taking better care of myself and my needs. I'd like to work on improving my physical, mental, and emotional health. This will often coincide with the first item on my list, for example, if I don't feel like going somewhere, I'm not going to go, just because someone else wants me to. It doesn't mean I don't like them - I just need to take care of something else at the time, without owing any explanation.
   
3. Continuing my pursuit of unrestrained zen and happiness on a personal level, and with my husband, and we don't need nor want anyone's approval. This will also coincide with being more enigmatic than "open book" about certain aspects and desires in our lives, unless around those of similar minds and consciences.
   
4. Learning to say "no" without feelings of guilt or obligation.
   
5. Don't over-promise stuff to others that is either impossible to finish or adds so much stress as to cause resentment and exhaustion, especially by piling more stuff onto an already over-flowing plate. This is another BIG problem of mine, which largely coincides with item #4. I think saying "no" is less disappointing than not following through on a promise due to not enough time, etc. I'd rather appear stingy than flakey. This is definitely one of my biggest faults that I don't like about myself.

Now, this doesn't mean I won't continue to give of myself to others, because it really is part of who I am, but I'm going to give myself equal treatment. And, because of this, I'll be able to lend a hand more often when true need arises.

Thus begins the year of Two Thousand Mine! ;)

Does this mean that there is a new BOB in your future?