And then, I suppose that we are getting married to fulfill the fantasy I've had since I was five and watched Annie for the first time. Private movie screening!

(also there's that love thing.)

Ouch. I just got compared to Pressler. :(

In that case I'm actually glad that we didn't know you guys well enough in 2002 to invite you to our wedding. You may have felt our choices unswanky, because we went with a standard package deal at a country club, didn't do it on a weeknight, and we tried to accomodate everyone (Sunday due to being Jewish, lunch because no one wants to stay up late on a Sunday night, and even brought in kosher meals for those that needed them). How very boring and middle of the road - aren't you happy you weren't there?

Yeah, I'm kinda miffed. </annoyance>

In any case, here's my real advice for LSPE and anyone else wanting to plan a wedding - do not ask for advice. I know I did what I wanted, and my only regrets involve things that I didn't hold fast on. Make sure it's whatever you want it to be, no matter where or how many people or how pricey the party.

:)

Ok, if it is a reception separate from the wedding then I offer no advice on that. People have weeknight parties all the time for all kinds of reasons. And people go to them.

You're still likely to have more people able (or willing) to attend on Friday night, Saturday, or Sunday day but again it boils down to your own priorities and you're the only one who can decide on those. Once you have a firm grasp on that the rest will fall into place as long as you don't let other people try to insert their priorities in place of yours.

I don't know where I said that I didn't enjoy anybody's tried-and-true wedding and reception. Hell, I am HAVING a tried-and-true wedding and reception. We're only planning a Los Angeles party to celebrate with friends who would (or could) not choose to come to podunk, MI to go to it.

And because those friends would be missing out on the actual traditional stuff we're going to go a different way. I am not sure what is upsetting you about this, but as I already said, I'd rather accomodate people and cut stuff than lose the chance to celebrate with them.

I think she's reacting to €'s DCA comment.

If you want an idea as to what we've spent, here's the summary:

Just at about $6,000 includes:

• 140 guests
• Saturday evening
• choice of a few different ceremony sites
• 5 hours of site rental, plus 3-1/2 hours of prep/tear-down time
• Lemon terragon chicken buffet dinner with sides and unlimited tea, soda, and coffee
• Huge wedding night cabin
• 1 keg of Newcastle
• 2 cases of wine
• cash bar (anything different than the beer and wine we're supplying, the guests will be on their own)
• champagne/cider toast
• cake cutting fee
• all linens and furniture
• set-up and clean-up (does not include decor)

It's actually pretty cheap for that many people on a Saturday night with limited booze and a full dinner. :)

I'm not voting either way. Sure, I'd prefer a weekend night because it's easier for me to get from SouthCounty to LA. However, this party is not about me. It is all about you and Tom and what you guys want. Heck, if you wanted to have it on a Tuesday at 3pm I'd try to take the day off work and be there.

Who knows, the date you pick may not work out for some people. You can't please everyone, so screw them and throw whatever party you want whenever you want. :D

Weddings are supposed to be a celebration of life and love. And it makes me sad to see that one of my friends feels like her friends would have been bored with her wedding because it wasn't swanky enough. :(

I think your choices are great!

Always remember that your wedding is what YOU should want it to be. :D

A big HERE! HERE! to that one...

When Rose and I were married, it meant a lot to us that our friends and family enjoy the wedding, but the key focus was on us; we had a great time.
It was neat to hear "that was the most FUN wedding I've been to" several times afterwards.

:cheers:

I've PMed LSPE and I know I should say this publicly as well before it explodes in my face -

My comments were directed at Euro (and iSm on the side for approving so much of Euro's post) because I couldn't help but feel offended at the inferences.

As I said in that post any and all types of wedding parties are awesome, because they are whatever people want them to be, and that's wonderful. They're all special, whatever you spend on whatever and however many are invited.

I never meant to insult LSPE and the rest of you guys. Seems I can't go too long before making an ass of myself in public. :rolleyes:

I love you guys and I obviously really do wish all of you could have been at our wedding, including Euro and iSm. I was being sarcastic. Why can't I ever pull off sarcasm?? Perhaps my husband should post things for me.