Yeah, yeah, i know.


Eye for an eye and we're all blind.


I was pretty blind with rage. But, yeah, there's no excuse.


Heheh, I won't pancake it. I said it. I felt it. I regret it.

I appreciate that you regret saying it. Still, I have to voice my public opinion that it was way out of line.

I have so much to say this morning.

But here's the email I just got:

I think picketing the Mormons is the wrong strategy. Rather than picket, gay people should take their disposable income and join the Mormon church. That would be a lot of tithes. Remember, when Utah wanted statehood, the grand poobah had a revelation that polygamy was wrong. It could happen again. Hell, if David Geffen signed on, they'd probably let him double as a Jew so long as he gave ten percent.

The actual intersection of the Mormon Temple is at Overland and Santa Monica, West of Beverly Glen, East of the 405.

Steve, you need to edit the offending line from your post. I don't really care if you feel justified in your anger or not. Fix it. We've had this nonsense from you before.

How do you know that I haven't had a serious talk with my roommate about some of the stronger things he's said? Pull your head out of your self-obsessed little ass and listen to me, with the exception of "faggot," there is no word or epithet that can be hurled at a white person that has anything like the hatred of the word you used.

A friend just sent me the following. I do not know the legal ramifications of this, if there are any.

I'd love to, but that's not within my power. This is RICH coming from you. When I edited my offensive line in the past ... and did it with a joke ... you had a hissy fit and demanded that I be fired as a moderator.

So I was ... and now don't have the ability to edit my posts hours later.

Please feel free to ask a mod to edit it. I will support that request.


Well, we happen to disagree. I guess I have to go with societal norms, but I happen to personally and absolutely truly feel that blacks have been enormously successful at NULLIFYING the evil power of the "N" word by using it affectionately among themselves ... showing us all that a word is just a word, and the meaning and power is what we make of it.

I think it's absurd that they have achieved this fantastic thing with the "N" word ... but only blacks can utter it.


I constantly use FAGGOT for the same reason. Affectionately among my gay friends. I hope some day that everyone can use the formerly-disgusting word because we gays will have made it HARMLESS. And until everyone can use it, and not just gays, we have not achieved that goal.

I use the "N" word as my inspiration. Yeah, I still won't say it. I regret using it in my post. But I look forward to the day when the quest for it to lose all derogatory power will have been achieved, and that day won't come till it's usuable by whites as well as blacks, and is not a filtered word here on the LoT.



Still .... it was inappropriate to use it. My disgust for black people who voted for Obama with one hand while taking away my civil rights with the other remains. But just as it was not right for Latinos to spit on gays and call them faggot on Election Day ... and it was not right for me to use the "N" word in my ranting post.


I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Feel free to ask a mod to delete it.

But once that day is achieved you won't feel any desire to use it where you did. You weren't using it to dilute its harming impact, you were using it to exploit it.

So I'm not sure what argument you are making there. "I was angry so lashed out to hurt by using the word but the word shouldn't hurt if we use it enough" lacks a certain coherence.

But regardless, I've argue for leaving what has been said where it has been said.

I was really happy I went to the protest last night. It helped to know that I was not alone in my disgust, anger and grief. Although I thought there was a lack of a "here's where we go from here" plan, I was glad to hear that the people leading the No on 8 campaign were just as unhappy as I was.

Now here's where it gets sticky. The people leading the rally called the Mormon Church out for funding the Yes on 8 campaign. And I am glad they did. Someone needed to do it. I am personally tired of being beaten down by religious groups who kick me in the face and then when there's a retaliation they hide and say 'don't hit me back, I'm a religion'. They can't come out and act like a PAC and then when there is resistance they act like a harmless church. They can not have it both ways.

I'm all for the high road. But it also bugs me when people defend close-minded Christians and say 'I'm a Christian, I'm offended by what you said'. Uh, yeah. If you're not defending the gay community when your church is preaching hate, then spare me your 'hurt feelings'.

And another thing. This is going to sound rough. I absolutely adore my friends and family members who spoke out against Prop 8. I appreciate the anger and grief you feel from the day Prop 8 came on the ballot to today. But part of me is frustrated because I have been feeling that same anger and grief now everyday for the past 10 years that I have been a gay activist and everyday since I came out of the closet 15 years ago. So I say to you, 'Welcome to the club. You should be hurt and angry. Thank you for joining in. Don't just tell me about how you're mad, show me that you're going to do something about it. We need your help.'

I want to share in Obama's win. I am very happy for him and our country. But it's hard to when rights were stripped from me. It's hard to have that hope when someone just kicked me in the teeth. There is an irony that some of the people who voted for Obama in the name of racial equality then voted against homosexuals in the name of religion. It is astounding that anyone who is a minority would gladly and freely take away someone else's rights. Let me be clear, I completely disagree with iSm's statement above. But I share in his anger at the hypocrites who say 'Yes we can' with Obama and then say 'No you can't' to the gay community in the same breath.

I am not about to defend iSm. His comment was completely and totally out of line. And I will vent my further frustration and point out to him that he has said a great number of things in the past that hurt and offended people to only take them back afterward. Know that the hurt still lingers even after a retraction, Mr. iSm. You need to filter that sh!t.

As for his comment - I'm inclined to say to leave it in and let him live with the consequences of his words/actions. Perhaps it will serve as a reminder - although I'd hate to see it come up in quotes over and over.