| wendybeth |
07-22-2010 11:38 PM |
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Originally Posted by Mousey Girl
(Post 329638)
My mom used the flyswatter on the backs of our thighs. She also yelled a lot. I don't remember the yelling, but she still feels bad about it.
When The Boy was 3ish, we had an episode where I was going to spank him, I had grabbed his belt out of anger. I caught myself before I used it, dropped the belt and walked away. I knew that if I had started with it I was angry to the point that I would not have stopped. I had to come up with more creative ways to punish him. this meant taking away privledges, toys, ect... It was much more effective and I felt a whole lot better about myself as a mom.
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My mom had a wicked temper- seven kids (single parent) and loads of prescription drugs did not help. She was fun when she was in a good mood, but scary and violent as hell when she wasn't. Very Mommy Dearest, only without the money. When you're raised by someone like that, you fear that maybe the monster will come out in you as well, but thankfully it hasn't happened in the 15 years I've been a mom.
I've only had to spank Tori twice- both times only one swat, and not hard. The first time, it was shortly after she lost her hearing and ran from me in a crowded hospital parking lot- she almost got hit by a car. I figured I would rather she understood the importance of not running from mommy than have her get run over, and it worked. She never did it again. The second time she was mouthing off to her Grandma- she was seven and starting to get a bit lippy, and I had to told her that if I caught her doing it again she would get a swat. She didn't think I could hear her (I was in the bedroom), but I did....Again, it was one swat, not hard, but her feelings were so hurt it could have been 100 lashes and I wouldn't have felt worse. (I'm glad I felt bad- I suspect the parents that spank their kids a lot often derive some sort of release or satisfaction from it). I told her that she was hurting Grandma's feelings in much the same way, and that pretty much put a stop to that. Oddly enough, I've never had to ground her or give her a time out- she's such a good kid that it's never even really came up. I know we're not out of the woods yet- next year she can (maybe) date.......:eek: |
