Valentines Day question
 

I'm no romantic genius, but I've done OK enough through the years. I try to be creative and non repetitive in my giving of gifts to my wife, and have learned the no-nos (she wouldn't be keen on a new vacuum for V-Day, for example). So I'm looking for something different.

I hear ads for the Vermont Teddy Bear company. I don't know. It seems a bit.....creepy to me to give a woman in her in her late 30s a teddy bear.

Of course, in the interest of surprise, I would not ask my wife if she would want one. Thoughts? Does any grown woman want a teddy bear? I just picture her giving it to my 4 year old daughter and thinking I'm clueless.

There is the pajama-gram, and my wife is a pajama connoisseur, so I am considering that.

You've been listening to conservative talk-radio again, haven't you? I know I've heard those ads for the VTB on either O'Reilly or Hannity.....

It would be sweet, but even better if there was a tennis bracelet weighing down Teddy's paw.
:D

(Of course, Eric would go for the vacuum. I've gotten new faucets for Mother's Day, telephones for Christmas, etc. I gave up on his sorry ass years ago.)

Personally, I'd go for Pajamas. But, I do love me a lovely pair of pajamas.

I get enthralled with little plush things on occasion, but I find they don't hold my interest for very long - except in the case of Berthold, my hippo. I LOVE Berthold.

Somehow, an indulgence in one of the fine botique choclatiers would make me happy. Vosges is one that I adore, but there are others to explore.

But, overall, I'm not a big fan of Valentines Day. I prefer little lovey surprises throughout the year for no other reason than pure love.

Nor am I. I think many hoidays are simply a scam to get people to buy presents for someone. I can post that only because my wife does not read this forum.

Yep. I guess us conservative males must have a soft spot for our loved ones. Why else would a teddy bear company advertise there?

I wouldn't buy a "full-size" teddy bear for a grown woman unless she were a plush collector. Bulky and takes up space.

I've gotten my share of adorable plush and I love it. :) But they're all beany baby size. Bigger stuff is just a pain.

The pajama game is the far more romantic one to play.


And even though Valentine's Day may be a con for choclatiers and Hallmark and florists, you are a non-romantic stick-in-the-mud if you don't commemorate your romance with something on that day. It doesn't have to be a material gift, but a touch of romance is called for on February 14.

If you want to prove that you're beyond such con work and that you are a true, non-manufactured romantic - then by all means, use little love touches of gifts and flowers and candies and foot rubs and candlelight dinners and strolls on the beach and unselfish sex throughout the year. But ignore Valentine's Day at your peril.

Anyone see SNL this week? They did a spoof of diamond commercials, but it was "a teddy bear holding a heart."

"Nothing says, 'I knew Valentines was coming way in advance and planned ahead for the perfect gift' like a teddy bear holding a heart. Sold literally just about anywhere." Good stuff.

I'd give you ideas...but I dont have an....I mean...I don't want to spoil CP's surprise. Yeeeaaah, that's the ticket.

I learned this lesson with my wife when we were dating.

"What do you want for your birthday?", I asked.

"Oh, nothing," she replied.

I obliged. I wasn't popular.

Ralphie wants me to write him something for Valentine's Day. I think that's a good gift. A poem, a story, etc.

I always like getting movies on DVD for any occasion. :)

Last year I got my stuffed vulture, and gave him a full bat skeleton. We're so mushy... :evil:

Perhaps I'll just get her a gift certificate to her favorite taxidermist.

Maybe not.

I agree with this. I do have a more than abundant supply of plush for a 35+ woman, but I'm very particular and I would be willing to bet that most women my age are as well.

I like the pajama idea as well, if you think you can find something she'd like...

I have no real good ideas... I'm such a sappy romantic anything I say could sound silly.

For the record - I've been put on a plushie ban. Even if we walk down the street and she stops in front of a window, points at a plushie and says "cool!". I have been told that this is not a hint of any kind. Chocolate always tends to do the trick - but I often find myself paying for flowers that are 300% more expensive than they were a few days earlier. Sucker.

I have to throw my vote in for the no stuffed animals rule.

I don't really have any plans for Valentines day this year, I expect I'll just do more of the same-old-same-old....

Will you STOP that?! Trying to get the rest of us in trouble?

What?? I'd never try and get anyone in trouble! That's just a side benefit.. :)

I WANNA SAPHIRE NECKLACE!

How about Pearls?

:sigh: Be still my heart! He's such a romantic!

Hehe, guess she has no qualms about the "Hallmark Holiday" aspect ;)

Pssshh. I really don't care too much. We've got a pile of cute stuffed animals in the closet, and I've got pretty much everything I want in life. :) Unless you want to buy me a new computer, which you do, which we shouldn't buy, so don't buy that.

Like my mom always said, all I need is love and fresh air :D oh and maybe a card with a cute puppy on it :p

I've already got what I want, which is a trip to DL in June (just booked our lunch at AG Place, NA!) and a cruise in the fall. I don't really care for jewlery or chocolate, so Eric gets off easy this particular holiday. We'll go out for dinner, though.:D

Lunch at AG place. I can't wait!

Oh crap. is VD coming up again?

Guess this means I'll have to put out again.

Who cares about Hallmark Holidays. I just want the necklace.:)

I went for the 2:30 time slot- just in case we're all moving slow....also, that keeps us from spending too much time there, I hope. Pink peppermint ice cream time!

We're doing our annual weekend of non-Hallmark-related mush this weekend. On Saturday we're going to do the Micelli's/Lady & the Tramp thing. On Sunday we're venturing out to Santa Monica to see our favorite street guitarists (Seis Cuerdas) and watch the sandpipers dart back and forth along the sealine.

When we're seeking romance, we do stuff more than we buy stuff, so my Valentine advice would be to sweep her off her feet and take her to do something out of the ordinary. And tell her you love her in as many ways as you can.

Another vote for pajamas.

Fortunately, neither Lani nor I give a hoot about Valentine's Day and both mean it. And we have an agreement that I am never expected to buy her either clothing (which odds are won't be quite right) nor jewelry (which she doesn't wear). For the most part the only ordained gift giving is for her birthday and is almost always a trip somewhere.

So I'm certainl not an expert about Valentine's Day gift purchasing, but you probably already know the answer to the teddy bear question since you know her better than we do. If you're having enough doubt to ask other people then you probably already know it isn't wouldn't be a hugely successful gift.

If your wife is a pajamas wearer, then I agree that could be a good present (but I've never worn pajamas nor been involved with a woman who wore them so again it is just abstract conjecture). I'd tend towards pawning the kids off overnight, a romantic dinner, a fancy area hotel, and making sure she walks funny the next day.

ok...guess I'll add my dos centavos.

V-Day.
V-day was always taboo to us. Mostly due to a loooong track record of horrors and cluster-f's over time that made us both deathly afraid of it. mega-jinx I think would be a good word for it.

Pretty much any and every time we'd attempt to schedule or get/create/do ANYTHING at all for V-day, it would end up in some horrendous fight or at best, with us not speaking to each other for days.

It got to the point where neither of us would actually say the V-word out loud to each other. For the last decade (alot more actually) on that day we would awake, get dressed, wish each other a good morning and avoid each other like the plague until the horror had passed. No cards, no flowers....no acknowledgement of the day at all (not even eye contact if you could at all avoid it)....lest ye call down the wrath of the gods.

So, my general opinion...

RUN! HIDE! DUCK AND COVER! ITS COMING!!!!!!!!

(but thats just one reporters opinion)

I find that strangely romantic.

Whenever I hear someone say V-Day I think Vagina Day. When someone says VD, I think venereal disease. I guess I'm weird.

I always really really want to go build a bear. It is so muchy fun picking out the bear and stuffing it and getting it little outfits. But then you are left with this bear. What the heck am I going to do with a bear? Nothing, that's what. And I don't want my house looking like a little old lady lives here, so I'm not about to decorate with them.

I really really really want a pajama gram. If only Michael read this forum! Actually, there are probably a thousand things more useful that I could get than a pajama gram, so I will probably never drop that particular hint.

I would like a teddy bear if it were holding a dvd collection, or a new book, or diamond earrings.

strange being the operative word, yes?


yeah, in case I hadnt mentioned it...none of THAT either.

:D

Vaginismus!

Aggrh, set the date already!!!

I say just squeeze her boob a couple of times and call it a night. Chicks dig the minimalist approach.

Now see, my last addition did have a similar use, and he was proudly added to the collection at the head of my bed.
He joined my retro Mickey, and my Marie Snow White. (No, I do not share my bed with anyone. Dont worry about how the man feels about this)

And the build a bear thing? totally cool. My reccomendation? Dont get a 'bear' get something you either want to have around, or that serves a use. I have a reindeer... she likes to come out at Xmas time. (serves a use.. that was silly)

That would go over well. No gift, a quick feel....you should write books.:)

thats just criminally unjust!


perhaps next time he'll dress up like a bear so he can be added to the collection. :D

I saw keep it simple and get her flowers.

I got you beat...

aka: "How to keep a man from missing the toilet"

Perhaps, but that would be a hard one to fit in the night table...

Hahaha! :snap:

That raises a good question, though.

Where does one store their sybian? (Oh, I feel a new thread topic comin' on!)

Does one place a sybian on the floor before saddlin' up? A chair could be awkward, a bed unsteady.

scaeagles- maybe you could purchase a Vermont Teddy Bear dressed up in little western wear (complete with cowboy hat) and place him on the sybian love saddle as a complete gift package! Everybody wins, no? :D ;)

Honestly solve that and I'd bet they'd sell a bunch more - perhaps they could fashion the whole piece into something more decorative or furnature like - I'm thinking of those people who collect carrousel horses...

I know a few girls who own sybians, and they're pretty proud of them.
As for mounting location, they tend to use a low table (whole new meaning to "cocktail table") or bathroom floor.

Matt "Has friends in strange places"

Or what about those old sewing tables, where the whole machine just swings down to be hidden inside the table when not in use.

Ooh! New toys!

From the Sybian website:


Of course they're bitter and sulky. They're not getting any. At least not anything good. :p

Build a Better Vibrator and the World Will Beat a Path to Your Door

And that's not ALL they'll beat.

So THAT'S why all the LoT women are so chipper!

ok, I simply must say, this....of ALL the PLACES ON THE NET that I frequent...is by far and away the very LAST place I ever expected to see a Sybian discussion.

just.........wanted to say that :cool:

you folks never ever cease to amaze me

He don't know us very well do he?

Anyone up for some boobies and tacos?

Haha! This is the first place I would expect it! :p

Are you kidding? What with the thread where we spent three or four pages talking about having something "thrown our way"??

I'm a little perplexed by the marketing aimed at heterosexual couples. At the local "sex positive" establishment, the biggest market is lesbians.

Of course, there's something for the men, too.

I'd buy one if I was a truely lazy woman.

CP: "$845? For that much money, it better suck my dick!"

Dysan - don't they make attachments?

I'd suck CP's dick for $845.

I don't think she can spare the money.

I guess the real question though is, does it swallow?

I hadn't visited this thread in a while, and with the number of posts per page I have set up, the first thing I saw was this -

Needless to say I had to go back and read some of the earlier posts.

I went the generic route rather than trying to be creative. I bought her a piece of jewelry she'd been hinting at. No surprise, but she'll be happy.

However, I think she's going to want to exchange it. She has an offer from her dad to go to Hawaii this summer - lodging would be free, she'd have to come up with her airfare. So after I give it to her, I'll offer to allow her to return it and purchase the ticket for her instead. Buying a plane ticket for a trip with her dad didn't seem so romantic, you know? So she can have the choice.