Lust trumps love when it comes to having sex
 

Lust trumps love when it comes to having sex
Study finds there aren’t many gender differences in reasons for intimacy

Now, I question the authenticity of the top ten (and bottom five) reasons for either gender having sex. I say this because I know that had I been handed a similar survey while in college, I would have messed with the answers: there would have been a high probability for me to answer "I wanted to punish myself." or "The person offered to give me drugs for doing it."

Oops. Forgot the link, so here it is.

And here are the lists:

The top and bottom reasons for having sex from a list of 237 that college-aged men and women gave University of Texas researchers:
Men's top 10 reasons:
1. I was attracted to the person.
2. It feels good.
3. I wanted to experience physical pleasure.
4. It’s fun.
5. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was “horny.”
8. I wanted to express my love for the person.
9. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
10. I wanted to please my partner.


Women's top 10 reasons:
1. I was attracted to the person.
2. I wanted to experience physical pleasure.
3. It feels good.
4. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
5. I wanted to express my love for the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was “horny.”
8. It’s fun.
9. I realized I was in love.
10. I was “in the heat of the moment.”


Men's bottom 5 reasons:
1. The person offered to give me drugs for doing it.
2. I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease.
3. I wanted to punish myself.
4. I wanted to break up my relationship.
5. I wanted to get a job.


Women's bottom 5 reasons:
1. I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease.
2. Someone offered me money to do it.
3. I wanted to get a raise.
4. It was an initiation rite to a club or organization.
5. I wanted to get a job.

Source: The Associated Press

How in the world is "I wanted to experience physical pleasure" and "It feels good" different things? Actually, pretty much all of the top reasons are some variation on "it's fun and the other person was amenable."

I'm guessing most of the options boil down to

1. It's fun.
2. I thought I would get something out of it.
3. I was forced/manipulated into it.

Physical pleasure could probably be distinguished from feeling good, as "I wanted to experience physical pleasure" specifies the physical, and "It feels good" could contain an emotional component (even if the emotion is exhilaration).

I do tend to agree that it's redundant, but that's at least a possible explanation.

Ok, thin but I'll buy it. So challenge number 2, what is the distinction between "I was horny" and "I was sexually aroused and wanted the release"?

Umm.... Some people like to use big words (extra long statement), other people don't (me so horny)?

Ya got me there.

making love doesnt always involve sex just like sex doesnt always involve making love

and as far as the original post topic of "Lust trumps love when it comes to having sex"





duh

Sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go, it's one of the best.

- Woody Allen