Well said, GC. Although you pretty much negated the long post I just wrote, you said it more elequently than I was going to. Glad you chimed back in.
I've never been able to buy into the "Love the sinner, hate the sin" philosophy. It's great for the person espousing it because, in their mind, it absolves them of doing any harm. "We love you even though your thoughts and actions are evil" just doesn't cut it however. It puts extreme pressure on a person to try to become something that they can never be so that they can be accepted by their family. Imagine yourself in that position.