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Originally Posted by Strangler Lewis
Within the given limitations. Nothing is gained by setting unreasonable goals and making little kids feel like failures.
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I agree, but I'm not sure that that is what Moonliner was saying. I'm anti good jobbing, as well, but because it is just another way thing that grown ups to do get kids to do what they want. I'd much rather a have a preschool that teaches kids, and helps them to find their internal motivation, rather than turning them into praise junkies whose sense of self hangs on stickers and verbal doggie biscuits. Neither punishment nor rewarding is appropriate in a such a setting. It's funny that so many don't realize that teaching can happen absent of those two control techniques.
I'm amused that in threads like these, where so many are so quick to bash parents that annoy them, I find myself disagreeing with both the poster and the person they disagree with. It doesn't need to be either give in to kids and spoil them or teach them the hard ways of the cruel world. There is a whole other train of thought that can be followed should one simply jump on.