Good call, Capt Jack.
So, I'm trying to explain to myself why it's so easy to see something from the outside - answers to things I've been trying to work on all my life.
Too many times I have been defensive with other people, when so many times all they probably wanted was to be heard, not even agreed with. I've been in their shoes, I've been in the defendant's shoes, and now in my outsiders' shoes - it makes perfect sense. Let's hope this carries over into my own scene.