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Originally Posted by Ghoulish Delight

Eh, there's a total duality to the word "cool." There's the side that's all about acting cool, looking cool, getting attention and being the cool kid, often at the expense of having sympathy for (and from) others. And I think that's more what the wiki entry is about. Whether you like it or not, there are invariable aspects of any society which divide the in from the out. That's not to say that being "in" is the best choice, but it's there.

Then there's the other side of "cool" which falls in line with what you're getting at. It's an internal definition and changes from person to person.

I think the first kind of cool is decidedly uncool though people seem to like it. I much prefer the second kind of cool, both for myself, and in who my friends are.

I've rarely been in the "in" crowds and I don't care. My husband says that makes me sound bitter but I can't see it. It's a fact that I generally wind up in smaller groups and the people who are the centers of the big groups don't interest me. I find people who do interest me and we have a great time.