[blueerica]

Regarding the door - like I said, I don't *expect* someone to hurry up, and in no situation would I expect someone to run or even jog to get there. I just know that when I see someone holding the door, I make a gesture (and by that, I mean slight body language) to suggest that I see them doing something very kind, and I don't dawdle. I'm really talking about people who dawdle unnecessarily. I suppose that I should just hold the door until I realize they're dawdling, then just leave. The one time I did that, I got an "ugh" from the woman as she came through the door and stepped behind me in line. She thought I was rude.

I liken the whole thing to crossing the street. Make your way across at a normal pace if you're not hindered by disability or age. I apply it to everything. Be as least a hindrance as possible. Make the world a better place (even if only slightly, and affecting only a handful of people at best) one tiny act at a time.