"they won't tell him who asked about him"
Oh, I see. Yes, I missed that. I thought you meant in general they don't tell.
Oh, well, if you talk with him I would tell him to get over it. If she comes forth, then he'll know. If she doesn't, he won't. Just go on as usual.
That is why no one should go through those channels. If you like someone, tell them. Or work it out in whatever way.
Am I old fashioned? Doesn't it still work this way?
And, yes, hearing people talking about dating I am quite glad to not be playing that game. I sat with my friend as she scouted out one of those on line dating sites. Too funny {and scary}. The men all put these really nice pictures but then their second/third ones looked nothing like the first ones. The women, well, meow! The things they said! The men whose stories I read were really normal sounding. The women, well, naughty naughty.
Why is that?