[MouseWife]

I have to agree with the above statement about your wife and kids; to think you suck at your life is actually a bit demeaning to them, don't you think? You are so important to them, to say what you've done with/for them makes you feel 'sucky' is totally coming from a down place for you. As said, we all feel this way at one time or another but what you do have, it is what it is. And that ain't sucky.

We all do impact others every day, good or bad.

Now, you do have the power to change things. First off, take care of your home. Do you feel you don't spend enough time with your kids? Change that! Do you feel that you and your wife don't get enough alone time? Fix that, too!

After you get your home in order, well, yes, there are a lot of ways you can volunteer, become involved. I would think this would also be a great experience for your family.

As it has been said, you can't compare yourself to others. Just decide what it is you want from yourself.

I wish you the best because I know this must be a hard time. My post, I didn't mean to make light of your plight if I did.