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Originally Posted by €uroMeinke

I guess it just underscores the fact that reality (at least in how it impacts someone) tends to exist more in one's perceptions than actual facts.

It's fascinating to think how much of our "us" exists only in the minds of ourselves and other. We actually define ourselves quite heavily in relation to others, and we in turn base our expectations of them by what we ourselves expect we would do in that situation.

I try to keep a consistant "me" in my life, but not everybody is safe to do that. The upright citizen with a fetish, the housewife with a crush, among others, find it necessary to split off part of themselves. Jung tells us about the Shadow, and the Shadow must be fed or it will find a way to make itself known and you get these preachers who are hiring hookers and using dope and swindling money from the church. Anything people think will be unacceptable to their peers, they split off and either feed it in secret or hide it altogether.

On the other hand, sometimes it's surprising what people will accept. I test the limits quite a lot sometimes.