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Originally Posted by Kevy Baby
I had intended to respond to this before Pru's post above.
I am not sure what drove you to post these comments. We all know how hard Pru has worked and the levels of disappointment that she has dealt with. Obviously Pru has reached a point where she felt that she needed to move on. She was being honest with us, her friends, and needs our support - not our scorn.
While you may have done something different, the remarks quoted were uncalled for. Your intent was to motivate, but the remarks were over the top.
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I disagree. Good friends will pull your covers because they can see more clearly the quagmire you've gotten yourself into. I probably would be in a much WORSE place if it wasn't for the hard reality some of my friends make me look at. I don't think there is anyone here who doesn't support Pru, but some of us see the defeatist attitude as a giant wall that needs to be dismantled IF she doesn't want to be the failure whe calls herself. Of course, there's a problem right there - if you really think you're a failure, then you're going to BE a failure. And, if that's the choice a person makes, than all of the hard conversations and internet hugs aren't going to make any difference. Obviously, there are people who think there is still a road to success open and really despise the blanket hopelessness that has been in evidence.
Sometimes, in order to make changes in your life, YOU have to be the one that changes. But, in the long run, if a person doesn't want to change and chooses to reamain sitting in the mire, then there's nothing anyone can do about it. There is no magic want that will make changes. You have to trudge that road yourself and never look back.
I learned the hard way and all I can do is share my own experiences and what worked for me. Feel free to disagree.