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Originally Posted by BarTopDancer
Changing behaviors is not like turning on a switch. It is a constant and consistent effort that requires practice and can result in having to practice many times before the change is perfected.
When trying to change a behavior related to things that bring comfort (whether food, smoking or alcohol) the person involved needs to do what works for them. If the behavior can be changed quickly with minimal struggle and set-backs then great. If it takes a lot of perseverance and results in set-backs is that person less of a success? No. They will just take longer to get to where they need to be. It's an individual journey made by an individual. There is no "one size fits all" scenario.
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Actually, it is more like turning on a switch, but one that you turn to the "on" position many times. It usually does get easier but it is rarely, if ever perfected. It takes daily manipulation of said switch.
As far as a person doing what works for them, I agree - if it happens to work. Most of the time I see people "doing what works for them" which translates into "making excuses for not making changes". I think everyone want the road to change to be soft and easy. It's not. It's abrupt and difficult and takes daily manipulation of the switch.
We all seem to want an easier, softer way with lots of pats on the back and acknowledgment from others. Too bad. You take control of the problem and deal with it head on and you'll get results. Otherwise, you're just going to convince yourself that "you're making progress" when, in actuality, nothing much has changed (but you may fool your friends for a while with all of the talk.)
I know I'm hard ass about this, but I take change seriously. Quitting drinking, using drugs, over eating, smoking, any bad behavior - these are all serious health issues that don't need a "feel good" solution. They need immediate change applied now rather than later. And, it is up to an individual to take action (and by action I don't mean just talking about it.)