Honestly? I found my "intelligent, active, sophisticated, gray-at-the-temples guy of my dreams" at a personals web site for men looking to date plus-sized women. There were many frogs kissed before he came along, but he's definitely proof that truly lovely, kind, and witty men can be interested in larger women.
By the way, EH, your post was just lovely. You're right - confidence is the best cover-up (but HWC doesn't hurt, either...
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