Hey, why don't you jump on the short band wagon?
I didn't think your hair looked bad when I saw you. I do understand that it's about how YOU feel though, and not what I think. But just sayin'.
I think the wedge cut looks great, but I see your point about the perm too. lunt cut might not look as bad as you think, and it will grow back out more evenly that way, too. When you picture yourself happy, what do you look like? Go with whatever will get you to that!