Very tactful! And it helps me understand where you're coming from. As, I think we've discussed this before, but we have very different experiences.
I am not really sure that I can think of anything OUTSIDE of the task at hand. I'm going to overshare, just for the sake of understanding and communication.
Spoiler:
For me, sex is all about give-and-take. Typically, a standard experience involves some of both, and some together. If I'm in the process of giving (in whatever way I'm giving, even if it's simply body touch) I'm usually thinking about what I will do next, how I will give him multi-sensory pleasure, how I will switch it up... because I want it to be as pleasurable as possible. If he is in the process of giving, I can hardly think at all because the sensations feel so good - but if I am thinking, it's typically about something erotic, or about whatever he's saying. And if we're both together, it's all about making eye contact, thinking about using my muscles, feeling intimacy...
Basically, I'm so caught inside of those in-the-moment actions and expressions that I just can't imagine what it would be like to be caught outside of them. So thank you for sharing your perspective - it helps me understand your experience better!