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Prudence, I have to tell you I felt it was in part incumbent upon me to invite you and your very nice bf as a welcoming gesture. I'm glad you guys live here, I look forward to seeing you at many events and perhaps becoming friends.
BUT ... i could not see how I could invite you while at the same time not being able to invite a good many people I have friendships with, feel true affection for, and have spent a whole lot more time with developing those friendships and that affection.
In the end, I decided such a friendly gesture could not be managed without hurting other people's feelings who thus would have been excluded on the basis that they did not just move to Los Angeles.
As Morrigoon pointed out, deference was given to people who have attended this event in the past (albeit only once) and then, yes, to people I feel particularly close to. There had to be some kind of fuzzy cut-off line. A few of the LoT folk I invited were unable to make it.
If I did not invite you, it most certainly doesn't mean I don't like you. But I hope you know whether or not we hang out together or have a deepish connection. Since the guest list was limited, those are the people I invited.
I can only hope such choices become even harder for me in the future, because I have become closer to more and more of my friends. I should only have such problems!
In the meanwhile, my regrets for any slights, or hurt feelings. I know emotions are what they are, and they sometimes sting. My sorry.
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