[MouseWife]

The thing about not getting an invite~

if these are kids who have grown up together, been friends for a while, RSVP is a bit much. I mean, if it were a child that were unfamiliar, that I would have called for. I can understand wanting to teach kids about the proper way to handle invites BUT these kids sound really close, not just classmates.

About being there an hour early~

I agree, I am not ready an hour early BUT my kids always are. They aren't the ones setting up the party. They usually have their friends hang out in the room before/after the party playing video games because during the party they can't go hang out in the room. That I consider rude. When the party starts {if it is in fact a structured party} everyone is out where the party is happening. So, being there an hour early isn't rude to me.

My older son, just graduated, has friends very close like I think are being discussed here. They've dropped by, eaten with us at a moments notice, gone on vacation with us, etc. etc. I don't think these are casual friends that she is discussing.

I hope it is working out.