[The Lovely Mrs. tod]

And do NOT get guilted into putting them in your wedding party. As in "gee, I'm sorry everyone's in long sleeves on this warm April day but we have to cover up my cousin's questionable tatoos and no, I wasn't going to ask her but my mother said I should because she's adopted and we don't want her think we're shunning her because she's not a blood relative."

Also beware the "you need to ask your brother-in-law to be an usher because he doesn't own a suit and they can't afford one but they can afford to rent the morning coat" trap while you're thinking about all this.

Now, as 3894 so subtly suggested...let's talk about clothes.