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I swatted my kids on the butt once or twice. They only time I remember why was when one was a toddler and let go of my hand and ran into the street. Letting go and running was getting to be a bad habit and into the street was it! Reasoning and time outs go only so far with toddlers in some circumstances. It certainly wasn't hard enough to leave a mark - and there were diapers in between.
My husband was hit regularly until he was a teenage I think. It didn't do him a bit of good. It only ended when he asked his Mother, in a very monotone voice - are you done yet? It wasn't effective as anything but a way for her to focus her anger. He was an out of control teen before, during and after and beating him didn't improve things at all. She would do other things too like pinch his tongue with her fingernails if he said something bad.
She's not like that anymore - not with her nephew that she was guardian of or her grandchildren. She will agree that it was ineffective... and she seems a bit embarassed by it.
She's still got a wicked tongue though and I always feel it's better to have her on my side of anything because there's no going against her.
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Nee Stell Thue
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