[Strangler Lewis]

Hard to tell from the picture.

But since it inspired a heartfelt "huh!?" reaction, I'm going to question the premise of the question: that any of you--but especially you, newish mom--should fly cross country to attend the wedding of someone who, jumping to conclusions, I will guess is some serial monogamist in his thirties.

Now if this guy is like, say, Marty, never had a date in high school or college, seemed doomed to be alone, but ultimately fell in love with some wallflower at the dance hall, then, yes, it's a joyous occasion and spare no expense. But otherwise--send a gift and a telegram.