Forgive me if comment piece-by-piece as I go along.  I'm finding your screed a little hard to stomach in its entirety.
You, Sir, are nothing short of DEAD WRONG about there being laws that impose a penalty for any clergy or anyone at all for refusing to perform a same-sex marriage ceremony where such marriages are legal.  Wrong as wrong as wrong can be.  Find me such a law.  I dare you.  You cannot and will not.  If anything, laws regarding marriage equality in some states have been written to expressly exempt clergy from any such penalties - even in cases where it's already in the law (what's known as given them the sleeves off your vest).
I don't know who you're listening to, BDBopper, but so far you are scoring a 
total zero on fact-checking.
Ok, that was your preamble and Item No. 1.  I can hardly wait to continue. 
