[Cadaverous Pallor]

Originally Posted by Alex

Though one thing that I think does help is accepting that just because I care strongly about some issue doesn't create any obligation in other people to care strongly about it. So if I'm the one who cares most about something (whether the kitchen is clean, what to do on the weekend, how to handle decision making processes at work) then it falls to me to do something about it. And if I don't then I'm probably wrong about how much I actually care.

This is an interesting point, since I do get annoyed at GD for not helping, though I don't want to constantly tell him what to do. He is clear that he doesn't feel as I do about organization.

I think the logic goes, "He says he will help with anything I need to care for the baby, but the baby essentially needs me, so he should be doing things that I don't have time to do, even if it's something he doesn't care about, because I'm the one living in this house every day and unhappy with the situation, and he wants to make my job as easy as possible, right?" But that just means that I have to ask him to do these jobs and I really dislike telling anyone to do them...because I don't want to do them myself.

Originally Posted by Betty

Are you getting any time to yourself? Alone? Besides going to the bathroom? To do whatever YOU want to do? Even if that's nothing at all.

I'm usually not alone when I go to the bathroom these days. Today Theo is napping beautifully so I not only got a shower, I'm doing some chores and checking back here. He could wake at any time though, and some days the nap is very short. There are no guarantees. What often happens is that he goes down, I finally get to check the internet, and by the time I'm done with that, he's awake again. When it comes down to it, I don't want to use my precious alone time for doing chores that I really don't want to do...even if I get annoyed that they aren't done. Sigh.

Originally Posted by Moonliner

I'll get the closets cleaned out after Moonie Jr. and Headliner are on their way.

I love this post.

I can't help but think that the practicality of "I can't find this thing, arrrrghh!" doesn't go away, though.

Originally Posted by Capt Jack

bottom line:
grant me the will to change what I can change
the ability to accept what I cant change
and the wisdom to know the difference.

I've muttered this saying (and Don't Sweat the Small Stuff) to myself many times over the years. Lately I've been doing less thinking and more blind-rage-reacting. Maybe I need to do more mantra work to make it stick.