We left New York in 1976, and I have relatives back east that I haven't seen since then. The others I've seen at most once or twice. Every time I've been back to New York, I've been faced with the dilemma: do I see the family? I've always opted not.
Part of the problem is that I always deferred to my parents on the issue of how much connection to maintain. If they didn't want to keep up, why should I make a big deal? Of course, part of their unwillingness to visit was financial, but part of it was due to ancient enmities. As for the east coasters' unwillingness to visit us, some of it is seriously due to the fact that there are earthquakes in California.
I have another trip coming up, this time probably only to Philadelphia but still within shouting difference. I won't be seeing the family. Fortunately, my mother understands.
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