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I would have to put myself somewhere between a 4 and 5 on the Kinsey Scale. On rare occasion, I do find myself attracted to someone of the opposite sex. I don't believe that I would be able to remain content though, were I to pursue it. In my 20's, I had a relationship with a woman that I was very attracted to emotionally and physically, but deep down, I knew that my overall preference was predominantly male.
And with that, I knew that a long-term monogamous relationship with a woman was not going to be fulfilling. My stimulation and desires were too strong in the opposite direction and, long-term, that just wasn't going to work. Later, when I fell in love with someone of the same-sex, I was able to find a relationship that felt far more genuine and fulfilling.
So the attraction to both sides remains, but emotionally, I know where I'm supposed to be.
In general, I think there is a lot more grey area in life than we would sometimes like to admit, especially regarding sexuality. I question whether women are more likely to have bisexual feelings then men. I simply feel that women are more comfortable being honest with themselves and have fewer hang-ups. I don't question that there are many people like GD who just don't have any attraction for the same-sex and I don't think we really have any ability to change who we are attracted to, at least not in a healthy way. Still, I think that there are many many males, who have thought about a same-sex encounter, who would never reveal it to anyone in a million years.
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