Wendybeth is my new official hero.
Start here. My natural haircolor is close to the Iridescence Bloom color. I died it with Pure Diamond. It wanted it a whiter shade of blonde, but it was too golden. Sort of like the Candle Glow on that page.
Then I did
this. Go to the shade chart. It is closest to the extra light blonde, but it was actually called bleach blonde something.
It actually turned out something like
this. Second picture down, third from the left. Only lighter. The ends actually turned out close to how I wanted it. It's the top half that looks really horrible. I just want it a bit darker, a bit more normal, and bit less uniform.
Thanks Wendy!