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Wow. I'm sorry too Betty. I grew up in the middle of a loveless marriage and it was no fun. I wished my parents would divorce from the time I was small. There was no hitting either, just yelling. I'll also say that plenty of people have found a way to work out their problems and regain a healthy relationship. Could your husband be suffering from depression?

If you do decide to leave him and he seems like a volatile person than perhaps you should pull money out of the bank ahead of time and arrange a place to stay. You'll be ok either way.