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Originally Posted by Prudence
Doesn't most of our culture equate self-worth with weight? I know that most people I encounter think less of me because of my weight. You'd think that would make me work harder at weightloss, but it just makes me give up. I'd make such a lousy anorexic.
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Yes. Which stinks. I've always had a few extra pounds. Actually before I turned 14 I had nearly 40 extra pounds and I was a lot shorter, then I lost it all and stayed pretty normalish thin until the year before I got pregnant the first time. Even then I had maybe 20 pounds I wanted to get rid of. Now after two babies in three years I have a lot to lose. I do feel like people treat me differently. It may very well just be that I'm sensitive about it, therefore I'm extra suspicious of people treating me differently.
I feel like less of a person, though. I hate that feeling. I had it my whole life except for a few magical years where I was thin enough and my self confidence was high enough to not let a few pounds bother me. Now my emotions may tell me I'm completely worthless because I'm fat, but thankfully I have my head yelling at me that that is ridiculous. Which is good because feeling worthless just leads to complete shut-down for me.
You wouldn't make a terrible anorexic. From your eating habits it seems as though you eat almost as little as an anorexic does. The thing about having an eating disorder is that you have to exercise all the time to lose weight. Your body stops burning calories when you stop eating, so you have to force it through exercise.
Mind you, I'm not at all recommending that route. I spent a few eating-disorderish years as a teenager and it wasn't fun. I was never stick thin like an anorexic, but I was thin enough. I would kill to be that thin now, but I always felt fat then. Stupid teenagers.
I'm trying my best not to feel like a useless lump because I have some weight to lose. Dieting makes me feel so much worse at first, because I fail a lot before I finally succeed. Keeping a positive outlook helps me to eat better though. Once I lose enough for my clothes to be loose than it's much easier. I need to do some serious meal planning though, because I ran out of food that's on my plan earlier than expected.
It's so much easier for men to be fat, it seems. Much more socially acceptable. And you can measure weight loss by belt notches.
Prudence, you are worthwhile, no matter what you weigh. I'm sure plenty of people here will back me up on that.
