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Oh, you guys. I am so sorry to hear that you were attacked this weekend. I can't comprehend this person's behavior.
The first time a friend of mine came out of the closet, it was via grapevine as well. Except that, after hearing it, I went straight up to my friend and said "no matter what happens, I will always love you." I hadn't had time to process the concept of homosexuality ('out' gays weren't prevalent in our community and my parents hadn't discussed them much with me.) But I didn't give a flying f u c k. I didn't care who he loved, I loved him because he was a good person and a supportive, generous, kind friend. And once I had time to think about homosexuality, all of the judgements heaped upon it seemed so horribly ridiculous. People's various biological sexual tendencies make me joyful-- gay, straight, bisexual, asexual, transsexual-- How wonderful. We feel. We live. We're allowed to love who we love.
There is nothing wrong with you, Crystal, and I know you know that. You're a wonderful person; what's not to love? And there is nothing wrong with your relationship with Jason-- in fact, from all that I have observed, it's a really beautiful and strong one.
Your friend is the one in the wrong. What kind of friend lets something like that--even if it's something they don't necessarily agree with-- stand in the way of a long relationship with a human being they've grown to know and appreciate enough to call 'friend'? It's impossible for us to erase the negativity this person has projectile vomited upon you. But let us at least remind you that we see who you are, we know who you are, we like who you are.
And we say: hot bisexual! Who doesn't love a hot bisexual? Something is terribly wrong with those rotten 'friends' on so many levels.
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