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Originally Posted by Alex Stroup
But do they have to find you physically attractive to be your friend? When I'm friends with someone I find less than attractive physically, it is not despite this. Physical attraction plays no role in what I think of somebody as a friend and person, but simply in how likely I am to spend stray moments imagining them naked and in my bedroom.
I have many friends. I doubt many of them find me physically attractive. I don't think it is pity friendship. If I won the "let's be nice to the ugly guy" lottery, I didn't get my notification in the mail.
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I don't consider a single one of my friends ugly. None of them are. They're my friends. How could they possibly be ugly?
There's a fine distinction here I'm apparently failing to make. That frustrates me, because it is very important to me.
I'm not saying that to be my friend one has to spend their every ounce of energy resisting the urge to grab me for some hot monkey love. But if they truly find me so visually repulsive that they would nod and agree that I'm downright ugly then I can't imagine why they would want to spend any time with me at all. And if they think that there are things I shouldn't do or places I shouldn't go because of how I look, then I don't want to spend time with them.