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I'll join the "visitors" bandwagon.
When I was 19, my GF was diagnosed with a brain tumor. She had 13 hours of brain surgery (they actually removed one lobe of her brain from her skull to get to the medula where the tumor was). Afterwards, even to this day, she always maintained that the single thing thay helped her the most was my visiting and acting like nothing was different about life - we just happened to be living it in a different place. Her mother drove her crazy by ONLY fawning over her for hours on end, "Oh my poor baby."
Most people treat visiting a sick/bedridden person like something to approach with heavy trepidation - that one should treat the individual with kid gloves. Short of causing a strain on the person physically or emotionally, just act as you normally would. Spend a LOT of time just "hanging out" - even if that means just sitting there quietly while you watch a TV show together. Treat getting things for the person more like, "I'm going to the store for a couple of things; you need anything?" rather than, "Oh you poor wretched soul - what pittance can I bequeth you to make your pitiful existance seem less pathetic?" (OK, so that second one is over the top, but you get the idea.)
If you go in with this approach, the visits will be easier for you and make life much better for the visitee.
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