[tracilicious]

That's a tough call. Because people love you, they will most likely find a way to go regardless of the day. But I wish I had spent less money (or eloped!) on the wedding/reception and more on the honeymoon. I think it depends on your priorities. If it's really really important that you have memories of a fabulous party then by all means do what you must. If the party isn't so important and you just want to spend time with friends, then spend less.