Crotch or A**?
One memorable scene from Fight Club was when Tyler Durden, while leaving his airplane seat, says that he's never sure whether to give someone the a**or the crotch.
This same dilemma gives me pause, as well, since I'm frequently riding public transportation.
A pet peeve of mine is when a person in the aisle seat doesn 't stand up to let me pass when I need to exit a window seat. Moving their legs gives me access to the floor space, but it doesn't give my body much room; I'm forced to squeeze up against theirs, and frequently the large bag I carry bangs into their arm or head.
Each time this happens, I also have to decide: a** or crotch. If it's a woman, I usually give her the crotch, because I'm less concerned about a woman being forced into that "face" to face, and it's easier for me to shuffle out of the row that way. If it's a man, giving him the a** feels less intimate; I don't have to see where he's looking as I scoot by. Frankly speaking, at times when I've given the man the crotch, I felt like I was issuing an unintentional invitation.
The pschology is killing me. I must be overly sensitive about personal bubble space, because this kind of thing really keeps me preoccupied. WHAT AM I GOING TO DO? A**??? CROTCH??? WHAT?
Why can't these people just stand up? I excuse the elderly or infirm, of course, but others need to give a girl's a** and crotch the privacy they deserve!
After years of this, I finally decided it was time to make actual requests of my fellow passengers, "Could you please stand up and let me pass? I won't be able to get by you, otherwise." Or, I simply point out that it would be easier for us both. Cordial people do so. Others simply ignore me, and to them I purposefully bang against them to show them what for...because I'm sweet like that. Once, when in a really bad mood, I think I actually said, "Fine, but my crotch is going right in your face."
A similar situation arises when the bus is crowded and there are a lot of standing passengers in the aisle. When someone tries to walk by a stationary individual, this individual has two choices:
1. Move forward, pressing one's crotch into to the person seated in an aisle seat.
2. Move back, pressing one's ass into the person seated in an aisle seat.
When I'm the person standing, I think I tend to move forward, thus giving someone the crotch, something I may have to rethink.
Today, I was the person seated in the aisle when a man moved forward to let someone pass behind him, pressing his crotch right into the left side of my face. Now, that seemed a bit much. He was closer to me than was necessary and had intentionally placed his crotch on my face and neck area. I jerked my head over to the left, to show that I was being made uncomfortable. I wanted to say, "Hey, my face isn't a d!ck rest, pal," but a rational part of me assumed I wasn't being molested on purpose, even though we were literally head to head. His belated and muted, "I'm sorry," indicated that he'd suddenly realized I'd been placed in a somewhat uncomfortable situation. He then moved towards the back of the bus.
No harm done.
So...crotch or a**? When forced into a confrontation with either, which do you prefer?
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