Speaking of coming out-

Nephythys · 03-30-2010, 05:50 PM

My son's best friend told us yesterday that he is gay.

I am not even the least surprised, but it seemed like it mattered to him to tell us. To be honest I have been waiting for this to happen-he has been on the "fence" so to speak for a while-experimenting and finding himself and I had commented to Ria that I really expected him to just come out with it sometime soon.

He has told his mom, and she is supportive-doesn't change who he is to her. He can't tell his dad, he would not accept it at this point. Poor kid-

My response was pretty much the same-it doesn't change anything about who he is to us. He is here pretty much as much as he is at his own home- he is like an adopted kid around here.

Braden is rolling with it-I think he has had plenty of time to ponder the possibility and now that it's "official" he's fine with it. They are the same as always-which is good, good friends are important to keep.

I know he is going to face challenges and struggles still- and I know he knows he can come to us anytime. I hope I will know how to support and help him.

Any advice?

Strangler Lewis · 03-30-2010, 05:59 PM

They did this storyline in "For Better or For Worse" about fifteen or twenty years ago. Sounds like everyone is playing the same parts, including the intolerant father (stepfather in the comic). He came around fairly quickly, so hopefully this kid's father will as well. I say keep up the good work.

alphabassettgrrl · 03-31-2010, 10:26 AM

Good that he can trust you and trust his mom... He's lucky to have you as a second mom.

Astonishing how hard coming out can be... you're never quite sure who will turn on you. Or who will be surprisingly awesome. But oh, gods, what a risk sometimes.

blueerica · 03-31-2010, 12:26 PM

One of my high school friends had a hard time coming out, but she did to me.

She was seeing someone at the school, so when that ended (the girl probably panicked and maybe even embarrassed or ashamed) and word got out, my friend lost a lot of so-called friends.

Luckily, we became closer, and I still consider her one of the best friends I ever had.

So good for your son's friend that he has at least a couple of people he can trust.

03-30-2010, 05:50 PM	#1
Nephythys Yeah, that's about it- Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: In a state of constant crap to get done Posts: 2,688	Speaking of coming out- My son's best friend told us yesterday that he is gay. I am not even the least surprised, but it seemed like it mattered to him to tell us. To be honest I have been waiting for this to happen-he has been on the "fence" so to speak for a while-experimenting and finding himself and I had commented to Ria that I really expected him to just come out with it sometime soon. He has told his mom, and she is supportive-doesn't change who he is to her. He can't tell his dad, he would not accept it at this point. Poor kid- My response was pretty much the same-it doesn't change anything about who he is to us. He is here pretty much as much as he is at his own home- he is like an adopted kid around here. Braden is rolling with it-I think he has had plenty of time to ponder the possibility and now that it's "official" he's fine with it. They are the same as always-which is good, good friends are important to keep. I know he is going to face challenges and struggles still- and I know he knows he can come to us anytime. I hope I will know how to support and help him. Any advice?
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03-30-2010, 05:59 PM	#2
Strangler Lewis Doing The Job Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: In a state Posts: 3,956	They did this storyline in "For Better or For Worse" about fifteen or twenty years ago. Sounds like everyone is playing the same parts, including the intolerant father (stepfather in the comic). He came around fairly quickly, so hopefully this kid's father will as well. I say keep up the good work. __________________ Live now-pay later. Diner's Club!
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alphabassettgrrl Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 4,978	Good that he can trust you and trust his mom... He's lucky to have you as a second mom. Astonishing how hard coming out can be... you're never quite sure who will turn on you. Or who will be surprisingly awesome. But oh, gods, what a risk sometimes. __________________ Why cycling? Anything [sport] that had to do with a ball, I wasn't very good at. -Lance Armstrong
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blueerica Nueve Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 6,497	One of my high school friends had a hard time coming out, but she did to me. She was seeing someone at the school, so when that ended (the girl probably panicked and maybe even embarrassed or ashamed) and word got out, my friend lost a lot of so-called friends. Luckily, we became closer, and I still consider her one of the best friends I ever had. So good for your son's friend that he has at least a couple of people he can trust. __________________ Tomorrow is the day for you and me
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