people demanding invitations?

cstephens · 02-03-2006, 06:09 PM

Just something I've been thinking about because it's come up a few times on another forum where I lurk.

Has anyone encountered a situation where you were hosting/throwing some sort of party (wedding, birthday party, shower, whatever), and someone who you had not planned to invite found out about it and demanded an invitation? What would you do?

I've not actually been in this situation, so I don't know how I'd handle it. I think I might be too stunned by the audacity of someone who demanded to be invited. I had one friend who wanted to bring an extra person to our wedding, and I had to tell her that we couldn't accommodate that, and it was uncomfortable for me to do that, but it worked out ok in the long run.

In the situation that I recently read about, a casual co-worker of the groom-to-be knew about the upcoming wedding and basically demanded an invitation, saying she was going to crash it anyway if she didn't get a formal invite. They decided to give her a formal invite just to avoid the mess. In the situation of a friend who got married quite some years ago, there was a woman she had been friends with, but they'd had a falling out by the time of my friend's wedding, so she didn't invite the woman. Shortly after the wedding, the woman cornered my friend at their mutual college and demanded to know why she hadn't been invited. I don't actually remember what her response was.

I've run across situations where I've not been invited to something I was hoping to be invited to, and I was disappointed, but I wouldn't begin to think of demanding an invite. There were other situations where I wasn't sure if I'd be invited, and if I hadn't been, I would have understood, but the invitation came through.

There was a time when I was going around to friends soliciting wedding invitations (whether or not they were even seeing anyone at the time), but it was all done as a joke, and I only did it to really good friends, people I was spending a lot of time with anyway.

Anyway, just morbid curiosity. Thanks.

02-03-2006, 06:09 PM	#1
cstephens Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 231	people demanding invitations? Just something I've been thinking about because it's come up a few times on another forum where I lurk. Has anyone encountered a situation where you were hosting/throwing some sort of party (wedding, birthday party, shower, whatever), and someone who you had not planned to invite found out about it and demanded an invitation? What would you do? I've not actually been in this situation, so I don't know how I'd handle it. I think I might be too stunned by the audacity of someone who demanded to be invited. I had one friend who wanted to bring an extra person to our wedding, and I had to tell her that we couldn't accommodate that, and it was uncomfortable for me to do that, but it worked out ok in the long run. In the situation that I recently read about, a casual co-worker of the groom-to-be knew about the upcoming wedding and basically demanded an invitation, saying she was going to crash it anyway if she didn't get a formal invite. They decided to give her a formal invite just to avoid the mess. In the situation of a friend who got married quite some years ago, there was a woman she had been friends with, but they'd had a falling out by the time of my friend's wedding, so she didn't invite the woman. Shortly after the wedding, the woman cornered my friend at their mutual college and demanded to know why she hadn't been invited. I don't actually remember what her response was. I've run across situations where I've not been invited to something I was hoping to be invited to, and I was disappointed, but I wouldn't begin to think of demanding an invite. There were other situations where I wasn't sure if I'd be invited, and if I hadn't been, I would have understood, but the invitation came through. There was a time when I was going around to friends soliciting wedding invitations (whether or not they were even seeing anyone at the time), but it was all done as a joke, and I only did it to really good friends, people I was spending a lot of time with anyway. Anyway, just morbid curiosity. Thanks. __________________ Disneyland Resort trip reports and restaurant reviews and more The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.
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