I think I need a Christmas mental makeover-

Nephythys · 12-03-2007, 01:12 PM

Repeat this mantra- it's not about STUFF- it's not about GIFTS, it's not about a load of CRAP under the tree!

Crap they won't care about in 2 weeks.

Why and when and where did I develop this idea that my kids needed oodles of STUFF to open on Christmas, and oodles of stuff for their stockings?

My parents? Yes. To some extent- because the gifts always filled the space under the tree plus more. Stockings were always filled with lots of fun little things-

Not anymore of course- we kids are grown and my parents don't have the $$ to spend on such insane frivolity- yet I know I got this mentality in part from them.

I love to give gifts- and my daughter is a good example of being spoiled. She's sweet as can be but she has SO MUCH stuff she neither remembers nor cares about most of it.

So why do I struggle with there not being more STUFF to give? I don't have the funds to buy them everything they want all in one shot. Nor would they appreciate it all- if they get too much they just want more and they don't appreciate what they have! Maybe- just maybe if they get a couple of things that they really want they will enjoy them more?

I can remember opening a dozen presents or more- Dudley Dursley am I indeed- though not as nasty

This year though my family has 2 gifts per person-and one is from the kids and one is from the adults.

If I let every member of my family buy gifts for every other member of the family? Let's see-6 in my family, then 2 for outside family (more if you count R's family as well- but we don't for this purpose)- so 8 total gifts for 8 people- maybe even 10 if you count two couples as 4 people and not 2.....

64-80 gifts. 64 to 80 GIFTS!!!!! Add that up!

Holy hell- no wonder my brain is fried.

Why is it like this? How to I fix it?????

**headdesk**

12-03-2007, 01:12 PM	#1
Nephythys Yeah, that's about it- Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: In a state of constant crap to get done Posts: 2,688	I think I need a Christmas mental makeover- Repeat this mantra- it's not about STUFF- it's not about GIFTS, it's not about a load of CRAP under the tree! Crap they won't care about in 2 weeks. Why and when and where did I develop this idea that my kids needed oodles of STUFF to open on Christmas, and oodles of stuff for their stockings? My parents? Yes. To some extent- because the gifts always filled the space under the tree plus more. Stockings were always filled with lots of fun little things- Not anymore of course- we kids are grown and my parents don't have the $$ to spend on such insane frivolity- yet I know I got this mentality in part from them. I love to give gifts- and my daughter is a good example of being spoiled. She's sweet as can be but she has SO MUCH stuff she neither remembers nor cares about most of it. So why do I struggle with there not being more STUFF to give? I don't have the funds to buy them everything they want all in one shot. Nor would they appreciate it all- if they get too much they just want more and they don't appreciate what they have! Maybe- just maybe if they get a couple of things that they really want they will enjoy them more? I can remember opening a dozen presents or more- Dudley Dursley am I indeed- though not as nasty This year though my family has 2 gifts per person-and one is from the kids and one is from the adults. If I let every member of my family buy gifts for every other member of the family? Let's see-6 in my family, then 2 for outside family (more if you count R's family as well- but we don't for this purpose)- so 8 total gifts for 8 people- maybe even 10 if you count two couples as 4 people and not 2..... 64-80 gifts. 64 to 80 GIFTS!!!!! Add that up! Holy hell- no wonder my brain is fried. Why is it like this? How to I fix it????? headdesk
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