Your first boyfriend or girlfriend

[Betty]

My freshman, 13 year old daughter who will be 14 in about a month, confided that she has a boyfriend. He is a sophmore, goes to a different school, and is the best friend of her best friend. It was a good time to talk about lots of things - like not having sex, birth control, and just how cute he is.

I'm not sure how I feel about all this. My husband is totally against it - but probably would be against her having a boyfriend ever.

They met at her school - where he comes to visit now and then with his friend... He likes school, gets good grades - but I've yet to meet him or talk to him.

He asked Amy to speak to his dad to meet him - and has requested that he speak by phone to Amy's dad. That impressed me somewhat - what teenage kid requests to speak to his girlfriend's father? (none of mind ever did...)

My husband does NOT want to talk to him. The subject of a boyfriend can't be brought up without major grumpiness or more.

Anyway, while I ponder this new revelation, I look to you guys for your group wisdom.

When did you have your first boyfriend or girlfriend? Did you tell your parents about him/her?

What do you think of a 13 (14) year old having a boyfriend or girlfriend?

My thoughts are - I'm glad she told me about him. I figure it's better not to outlaw it as she might still have him as a boyfriend yet I won't hear about it and be able to talk to her about it.


I had my first kiss at 16 - my first boyfriend around that same time - and also lost my virginity that same year. I would have loved to have a boyfriend earlier as many of my friends did - but I was fairly shy and especially so when it came to boys.

Please share your experiences of both yourself and if you have kids, how you feel about their dating (or future dating).