Battle of the sexes.... I'm curious

[Ponine]

It all started today, in a seemingly innocent real world conversation between full grown adults, well beyond the age of puberty.....

It seems that men, at least some, are not aware of the Female Code, or Female Network that can occur in the workplace, or other place where the same people meet on a repetative basis.

You know what I mean?
The fact that a given group of women will know which men are available,
Or which men are dating which women...

or The fact that if one woman asks another if Steve is available, that she is under no obligation to tell Steve who asked, even if he begs?

Does this not happen in anyone elses workplace?

I was always under the impression that there are groups of men who do similar.
Was I misled? Is it just MY friends?

Please discuss.... I am genuinely interested.

[Ghoulish Delight]

Women?

[Ponine]

Originally Posted by Ghoulish Delight

Women?

I have no answer... other than.. are you asking if I only want women to respond?
Please no.. anyone.
Maybe its my friends that are psycho.

I know of groups of women, groups of straight men, and groups of gay men that all do this in their own ways....

[AllyOops!]

Aw! He said, she said, they said, we said. Isn't it just the best?

It's not just your friends, Ponine! I can honestly think of a bunch of situations where I have encountered the same thing, whether it be work, social, friends or what-have-you. Doesn't it seem like dating sometimes never moves beyond High School? It's just filled with a little less drama (not by much) and lots more sex.

I haven't noticed these discussions in a group of males, ever. Maybe they just choose not to discuss it with or around me. Mostly, my guy pals & fella coworkers are too busy talking about sex acts 24/7 to move onto anything beyond that, except maybe for discussing work. Or sports. Not one man has ever tapped me on the shoulder and tee-hee'd me about his new crush & if I could "pass it on". However, every "rule" has an exception!

I myself have never discussed who I "liked" or wanted to "date" mainly because I'm very shy and private with my life. I used to be more open, now I'm much more cautious. One of the things I love about my boyfriend was that when we met, it was strictly by meeting ourselves. I've never really had that before! We didn't work together or share the same friends. Best of all, I wasn't looking. I had decided to remain single forever and was so jaded! When I least expected it was when the magic occured.

However, you can meet your soulmate or just a fun person to date through friends or work. That happens to be the case in most situations.

I just love being a girl, and I just love men! I'm toasting to the sexes!

[Ponine]

Originally Posted by AllyOfTheDolls

Not one man has ever tapped me on the shoulder and tee-hee'd me about his new crush & if I could "pass it on". However, every "rule" has an exception!

Yes but in this case, it was one woman going to another woman asking if THAT GUY was available or not.
Now why anyone chose to TELL the guy someone was asking.... I have zero idea.

[Ghoulish Delight]

No, I meant, "Women in the workplace, what'll they think of next?!"

There are about 22 people in my department. Exactly 2 are women, both are married. We have 3 buildings. In the building I'm in, which houses our engineering operations, there about 200 people, I'd estimate. I can probably sit here and name all of the women off the top of my head. It can't be more than 20-30.

The ratio is much different in the other two buildings (HR, sales, marketing, accounting, etc). But if I'm in those buildings I'm doing my job wrong.

So honestly, who's dating whom and who's available etc. is not a particularly hot topic of discussion among the men in this building. Perhaps there is talk amongst the women, but I'm oblivious to it if there is.

Meanwhile, just yesterday I was looking at a floor plan of our building and noticed one of the rooms labeled "Womens Lounge." It was nowhere near a restroom. I went and looked at it. It's a room that's always empty, large enough to be a conference room for maybe 5 people. It has one small desk and one crappy desk chair shoved into the back corner. I'm not sure I want a mens lounge.

[Strangler Lewis]

Originally Posted by Ghoulish Delight

Meanwhile, just yesterday I was looking at a floor plan of our building and noticed one of the rooms labeled "Womens Lounge." It was nowhere near a restroom. I went and looked at it. It's a room that's always empty, large enough to be a conference room for maybe 5 people. It has one small desk and one crappy desk chair shoved into the back corner. I'm not sure I want a mens lounge.

Where my wife works, they have special rooms around the complex for nursing mothers to pump. It's much nicer than what you describe, though, and I don't believe it's euphemistically named.

[MouseWife]

I thought most of that was pretty much private info? {who is dating whom, etc.}

I think if there is a group of women who are on top of things, I would probably stay away from them, myself. Not always reliable information. Jaded? Twisted to fit their own agendas? I wouldn't want to be in their conversation.

I think guys like to be above all of that. They like to go home and have private lives {for the most part}.

From what I remember, I wasn't too happy to learn that a guy had talked about me at all and I would end things quite quickly. Perhaps most guys have learned this and decide to keep their lips zipped?

So are you saying a fellow was bugged to hear he was the topic of conversation?

I say, go to the source and find out if there is a connection on your own.

Hope I got the question right...

Oh, and the only place I've heard of a 'list' of any sort was hearing a friend talk about their church.....Or, what about the old single meets from MousePlanet?

[Ponine]

Originally Posted by MouseWife

So are you saying a fellow was bugged to hear he was the topic of conversation?

I say, go to the source and find out if there is a connection on your own.

Hope I got the question right...

Oh, and the only place I've heard of a 'list' of any sort was hearing a friend talk about their church.....Or, what about the old single meets from MousePlanet?

There is no REAL question.... I'm just curious.
The situation didnt really involve me, I merely heard about it second hand.

And the guy bugged... on one level no, and on another level, totally freaked out.

And see... there's a group of women who keep a mental list!!!

** and the question about a donor? A woman asked.

[MouseWife]

LOL On one level not bugged but the other freaked out? LOL You can't even imagine what I am thinking. Does the woman have a reputation or something that has given him the willeys? ;0)

A woman asked? Bee-atch. Ooo, you need to give her a wedgie or something. Next time she quips something like that, tell her {and I am being nice 'cause you could throw in something about HER husband/boyfriend to be evil but....} 'Oh, plenty willing, none worthy'.

Or the other road 'In the market for another child? Wow, what a sad way to look at such a blessing'.

Eh, or just trip her as she walks away.